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Parenting Like A Karate Instructor To Change Attitude


Parenting. In today’s culture it is one of the most challenging and difficult responsibilities parents will ever have. Two of the most important qualities you can instill in the character of your children are discipline and guidance. Discipline will give them the strength they need to face the most difficult times, and guidance will teach them to mimic the parent’s character and seek out those who will help them achieve their goals.

As a martial arts instructor, both of these qualities are the basis of teaching and training. Realizing that most students, especially the younger ones, want to learn martial arts for the combat skills it is critical that students are instilled with a framework that will guide them achieve success in every aspect of life. The basic principles used as a martial arts instructor are not only valuable, but provide a solid structure for successful parenting.

Rules are the most challenging pillar of parenting. We know children will break them from time to time. The problem for the parent is that there are so many influences on children about what rules they should follow and when can confuse them. So the first key principle is:

*** The rules are always the same. ***

Always. For all your children. When their friends come over they are expected to conduct themselves under the same rules. Always.

Rules lay the foundation for the boundaries of what is expected of them – at any age. Parents often lose patience and heart when their children begin their puberty years and the independent streak begins to show. To successfully counter this, teach them as early as possible:

*** There is only one expectation and it never changes. ***

Never. Unlike rules, you cannot impose this principle on your children’s friends, but your children will always know you are consistent and never change the expectations. Never.

How to know what these expectations are is a common question. While every child is different and some will require more training than others, expectations need to be clearly stated and simplified in a way everyone can understand. The firm yet flexible principle for everyone is:

*** The only goal is improvement until success is achieved. ***

Until. The process will almost certainly take longer for some children, and in some cases it will take years to see success achieved. But the idea of not achieving success is to be eliminated from the range of possibilities. Prioritize “when” and not “if.” Until.

Goal setting is something that many parents fail to do. The good news is that by teaching goal setting to your children you can learn it as you go along. Though there may be some humor (and truth) to this, it is a way to demonstrate to your children that the principle of guidance also applies to the parent.

*** There is always an objective, rarely a timeline. ***

Rarely. If you have not set goals for yourself as a parent it is evidence that you can begin to set your own goals today and not worry about the timeline. For example, you may have wanted to go to college but life got in the way. State the objective and begin moving through the timeline. Today. Then you will more clearly understand the reason why a timeline is separate from the objective. Rarely.

Setting goals can become a problem for two reasons. One, the goals/objectives will likely be different for each child. Two, being a parent does not mean that you can see every side of a discussion or problem. Authoritarian parenting does not work if being in charge equals always being right. The way to find the middle ground is:

*** If you can’t do it “this way” then we will try “that way” – but you will get it. ***

Way. While it is true the shortest distance between two points is a straight line, our lives are never straight lines. Neither are your children’s, and the sooner they accept the reality the more successes they will achieve. You may have to work together with your child to find “that way” but the objective is to find the one thing that works. Way.

Up to now the article has placed a good deal of the responsibility on your children and leaves you as the parent just monitoring their progress. But there are a couple of principles you need to learn and apply as well. When your children see these behaviors in you they will naturally acquire them and add them to their character.

*** Instructors never have bad days that they take out on the students. ***

Of course you will have bad days, but parenting is not an 8 hour a day job. (What many parents do not realize is they will be parents for as long as they live.) It was said at the beginning that parenting may never have been more challenging and require more of the parents than in this day and age. To successfully manage your bad days you need to find time for yourself to decompress and then return to being an instructor. Apply the principles here that you will be teaching to your children and it will not be as difficult as you imagine it to be.

The second principle is probably the most rewarding and satisfying, short of achieving an objective:

*** Always highlight, comment on, and celebrate success or improvement. ***

You can find a number of ways to accomplish this, and it does not require any money. In fact, many children have a silent request that too often goes unnoticed: they want more of the parent’s time. The problem in applying this principle is a parent can appear to be insincere with their approval. Timing, choosing the way to demonstrate approval, and making sure not to approve every tiny achievement are essential for this principle to have meaning to the child. Again, every child is different, and some may take more approval and celebration than others. Try not to take your other children’s responses into account because they, in time, will understand.

We have ended this brief journey into becoming an effective parent through applying the basic principles of martial art instructors. From experience, I can tell you that seeing students grow and become skilled through hard work and training is a huge reward. Yet I spend only a few hours a week with them. As a parent, you have the advantage of seeing your hard work rewarded every day – and for the rest of your life.

The Perfect Christmas Gift; Benefits of Martial Arts for Kids


As a good parent, you need to give your child the best gift during special occasions such as Christmas. After thinking and doing a lot of research, you may have not yet decided on a given gift as the best for you to offer your kid. Have you ever thought of introducing your children to martial arts classes? It is among the best gifts you can ever give your children. The classes make your kids have fun as well as benefiting from physical activity and the great fun which comes with the classless. The trainers in the classes know how to handle children. The children in the classes know how to interact with each other. Even if your kids have social problems, they will achieve great success in developing good social skills.

Benefits of martial arts to kids

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Developing Respect

Children who have respect succeed in their lives. You need to teach your kids to respect so that they will respect elders in their life. It can be hard for you to have the children develop respect, but the martial arts classes are all about respect and following rules. The children will not be forced to develop respect; the atmosphere in the classes will make them realize the value of respect so that they will succeed in their lives. They will interact with other children who will encourage them to have the virtue of respect. Even if your child was very disrespectful, he would become respectful within a short period if you will introduce him to the right martial arts classes.


Acknowledging simple things which you receive is among the virtues you need to make your children develop. In the martial arts classes, learners are taught on how to appreciate small things which they receive in their lives. You will find it easy to continue doing well to your children if you will have them appreciate your efforts to make them happy. You will be motivated to do more good for your kids after you develop the art of gratitude in them through registering them in the best martial arts classes.

Fostering Self-Discipline

In martial arts, kids are reminded of how important the art of self-disciple is to their success in life. You will find your children developing the art of self-discipline which will help them succeed in most activities which they will be engaged. If you like your kids to stay entertained during holiday and develop the necessary virtues for them to succeed in life, then you need to have them enrolled in a martial arts class. The classes will make the children learn from each other. It is among the best ways to change the character of your children. The classes are divided into different categories where the children will strive to be promoted. Each time they will make great improvements; their efforts are recognized through the rankings which they will receive. This makes the children respect those who have been promoted as well as those who are below them.

Boosting Social Skills

There are several shared pursuits in martial arts. Children will get to know each other in the pursuits. It creates the best opportunity for your children to develop the skills of socialization. Even if your children are facing challenges of being antisocial, it is very easy for you to have them develop social skills after you decide to introduce them to the classes. Martial arts classes such as Jiu Jitsu even help your kids to develop camaraderie skills which will play a great role in their lives. The social skills which the children will develop will play significant roles in the life of the children later in life when they become adults.

Encouraging Physical Activity

You need to help your children get off the couch and make them more active. The classes play a great role in making your children get active. They are organized in your neighborhood where the children will be required to arrive in a given period of the day where they will meet with others and train. If you will like to make your children active in the Christmas holiday, then enrolling them in your nearest martial arts classes will make them enjoy their holiday as well as become active. Physically fit children tend to live healthy lives free from common health problems.

Learning to Set and Achieve Goals

In martial arts, children are subjected to the accomplishment of goals where they are offered colored belts. It is very easy to make your child develop the skills of setting goals which he will achieve through the colored belts. Goal driven individuals are successful in life because they can measure the steps of their endeavors. The kids will be encouraged to attend the classes because they will like to improve their ranks. If you were facing challenges when trying to make your children stay active, making them attend the classes will motivate them to go out and enjoy their lives. The classes make the children occupied hence prevent them from joining bad companies in your neighborhood.

Increased Self-Esteem

The classes make the children achieve certain goals in their lives. The achievements will make your children develop self-esteem. If your children are struggling with low self-esteem, you will have the problem solved after you get them active in the martial arts classes such as karate. They will be promoted in the ranks where they will be offered colored belts. This makes the children feel they can accomplish something in their lives. With time the feel of low esteem will be gone from your children live. You need to make the children feel they are worth. Among the best ways to achieve it is to introduce them to a class where they will get to interact with each other and compete favorably.

Improving Listening

For the child to advance in the ranks, he has to develop superior listening skills. The skills will help the child even beyond the walls of the classes. You will have your kid listening to instructions as well in different fields of life which will make the child successful in many aspects of his life.

Why You Don’t Want Your Kids Labeled “Dishonest”


Every parent wants to raise a trustworthy child who is held in high regard among their family members, friends, co-workers, and society in general. We all have seen those kids who grow up with no moral compass and seem to find themselves trudging through life with no direction and no respect for themselves or others. No parent wants to face having raised a child who is dishonest. So, what can you do to prevent your child from becoming one of “those kids” who grows up to be someone no one can trust?

What Happens When a Child Grows Up Being Dishonest?

Sad Abused Boy with Anger ShadowWhile it may not seem like such a big deal when a child is only five years old and tells lies on a frequent basis, this behavior will no longer be accepted once the child reaches adulthood. Children who grow up telling lies on a regular basis are not respected by family members, teachers, friends, or people in the community. A child who is labeled as dishonest often carries that title with them for life, especially if they become a lying adult who does not change their ways. Dishonesty can often lead to:

* Failure in school

* Issues with college admissions

* Difficulty gaining employment

* Difficulty keeping employment

* Problems with personal relationships

* Problems with breaking the law

Dishonesty creates a slippery slope that can become easy for a child to become entrapped in. It seems one lie leads to another and another and before you know it, a child is having difficulty distinguishing between reality and the make believe world they have created with their lies. As Sir Walter Scott said, “Oh what a tangled web we weave, when first we practice to deceive.” Oh, how true this quote is!

What Makes A Child Become Untrustworthy?

Before we launch too far out into the deep, it is important parents realize children are going to lie from time to time and this does not necessarily mean they will turn out to be a deceitful adult. Children may lie for a variety of reasons, including:

* To avoid being disciplined

* To receive a reward

* To protect others

* To enhance self-esteem

* To protect their privacy

Unfortunately, it does not take long for a child to develop a habit of dishonesty, especially if they are not disciplined appropriately when caught in a lie. While discipline is crucial for helping a child develop a habit of honesty, the wrong discipline can cause further problems that can be difficult to address.

What Is the Wrong Way to Address Dishonesty?

When a parent realizes their child has committed a serious lie, they are often devastated. Suddenly finding out your child has lied to you in a big way can be hurtful and make you very angry. Often, parents become so angry with finding out their child lied, they go overboard on punishment, thinking they are doing the right thing and this will “wake up” their child. Regrettably, this signals to the child to forego telling the truth in the future because they do not want to face such a stiff punishment.

As parents, we can often feel we are doing the right thing when we are actually doing the direct opposite. Instead of encouraging our children to tell the truth, we act as policemen, doing our best to catch them in lies and then bringing on swift punishment. Yes, discipline is crucial but modeling the correct behavior and open communication are even more so for developing honesty in a child.

Parenting can be difficult when it comes to knowing how to properly discipline a child and address their issues with dishonesty. Although it can be cumbersome instilling a child with honesty, the benefits lead to a child who is self-assured and has moral integrity. When a child becomes a trustworthy adult, doors of opportunity await them.

How Can Parents Instill Honesty in Their Child?

Modeling the desired behavior is crucial for success in helping a child become honest. As a parent, we often make the mistake of telling those “little white lies” on a regular basis and do not even realize what we are doing to our children.

How often have you lied to a telemarketer or refused to come to the phone, making up an excuse? Do your children see you telling lies on a regular basis? We all make the mistake of forgetting our children are watching us all the time. We tell a friend their new haircut looks great and then we get home and say what we really feel. Is this the proper way for us to model honest behavior? After all, children are going to pay attention more to what we do than what we say!

These tips can help parents instill honesty in their child:

* Try to avoid lying in front of your children. If you do find you have lied, explain why you did. Use this as a lesson to help a child understand why it may have been better had you not lied and what you could do differently in the future.

* Do not attempt to trap a child in a lie, even if you are positive they are about to. Allow them time to talk to you and reveal the truth in their own way.

* Do not confront a child with their lie if you are upset or angry because you will be more likely to be overly harsh in your conversation and the punishment you choose.

* Begin teaching smaller children the importance of honesty at an early age. If honesty is required from an early age, a child is less likely to develop lying habits.

* Older children can be taught the valuable lesson of honesty by informing them of the devastating consequences of dishonesty in relationships. They need to know once trust has been broken, it can be very difficult to mend.

Because a fear of punishment is the most common reason adults and children lie, it is important punishments are approached carefully. Punishments should be put in place before a child ever lies. It is a good idea to have a warning system in place so a child does not get punished for their first offense. The punishment should match the severity of the lie and the parent needs to be sure they do not close their child off to the point they avoid open communication in the future.

Instilling Discipline Begins at Home But Should Not Stop There

Honesty is a crucial life skill every child must master before they step out into adulthood and are on their own. If this life skill is not taught from an early age, it will become increasingly difficult for a parent to pursue because their child will have already developed bad habits. The more a child is allowed to lie and get away with it, the easier it becomes.

A big part of teaching a child honesty is being there for them no matter what. They need to know they can come to you, no matter what they may have done, and your thoughts towards them will not change. They need to feel comfortable opening up to you and becoming vulnerable. If you can successfully foster that type of relationship with your child, they are going to be more open and honest with you and there will be fewer episodes of lying to deal with.

Discipline is a big part of honesty and a child who is disciplined will be better able to self-regulate themselves. It is important to note discipline is not just punishment. Living a disciplined life means having order and not chaos. It means being held to your honor and guarding your reputation against anything that might arise and cause it to be tarnished.

While some parents enroll their kids in the Boy Scouts or make them join a sports team to gain a code of honor, this is not going to be beneficial if the child is not being disciplined at home. They need to be held accountable for the things they say and do. No group or mentor can instill honesty without the intervention of the parents or caregiver.

Martial Arts Can Add Discipline to a Child’s Life

Martial Arts is a practice that can change a wayward child if they have the full support of their parents. When a child is involved in Martial Arts, they must be held accountable to their sensei and fellow classmates. Lying is something that can be detrimental to training and is not accepted in any form. Not only is a child expected to be honest to others, they must also be honest with themselves.

A bond must develop between a student and their Martial Arts instructor but it can not develop properly if both parties are not honest. From the moment a child is enrolled in Martial Arts training, they are taught to be honest with themselves. Self-deception is one of the most destructive of lies because it can deeply affect a child’s ability to prosper in school, at home, and in life. Self-deception is one of the easiest bad habits to master because it is very difficult for others to detect since it is all done internally.

Martial Arts aids in the development of integrity which is a crucial part of becoming an adult. The instructors help kids to fully address their shortcomings instead of making excuses for them and inadvertently lying. When a kid is being taught honesty at home and is involved in Martial Arts training that is further instilling honesty, they will begin to change in positive ways and lying will no longer be a part of their psyche.

Learning the discipline of Martial Arts requires a child to be held responsible for their own actions. If a child is allowed to make excuses for their behavior, they are likely to end up becoming the type of person that fails at everything in life. When a child is training in Martial Arts, they must be disciplined in their training and practice. If they fail when tested, they will have no one to blame but themselves so they learn they cannot cover up their failures with lies.

When Martial Arts is combined with a strong focus of honesty at home, kids learn this crucial life skill and develop a strong sense of pride in becoming a trustworthy individual. Their reputation will become something they treasure instead of something they disrespect and do not hold in high regard.


Anyone who is a parent knows parenting is not easy, even if you have a model child. We always second-guess ourselves and worry whether or not we are making the right decisions in parenting. If a parent works on practicing honesty themselves and requiring it of their child, they can instill honesty in a profound way. Adding Martial Arts training can further the honesty lessons a child receives, giving rise to kids who are self-confident and honorable in their words and actions.

What’s Missing In Todays Youth? In A Word, Honesty!


Kids these days! How many times has this statement been uttered as older people shake their heads in wonder? Unfortunately, honesty is no longer the existential character trait people once highly regarded. Instead, we are creating a generation that feels they do not have to be honest and actually are inadvertently rewarded for being dishonest.

Although we could attempt to blame society, television, even the school system for the lack of honesty among the younger generations, parents need to be aware of the role they have played in creating untrustworthy offspring. Generations past were held to much higher standards than they are today and many children are growing up under the falsehood they do not have to be accountable to anyone. So, where have we gone wrong as parents and what can be done to right the wrongs before society delves deeper into subterfuge?

Why Were the “Old Ways” Better Ways?

It seems each generation has attempted to improve upon the last by leaving behind what they consider old-fashioned methods of parenting. Forty years ago, children were taught a person’s word was of paramount importance and lying caused a tremendous blight on their character.

When a child lied, they were punished for their indiscretions and they were no longer trusted until they could prove themselves trustworthy again, which took a lot of work and character development on their part. This raised up a generation of men and women who gave their word and meant it. There was no need for drawn-out contracts and promissory notes because people could generally rely on a person’s word as their bond.

We must take a look at what has changed over the years to understand why Honesty is no longer considered a respectable trait to have. One of the biggest changes over the last fifty years has been both parents entering the workforce and leaving kids to raise themselves. Many parents are working full-time jobs, sometimes two, and the kids are suffering because they are being raised by video games, television, and the Internet, which create a pseudo-reality that contaminates a child’s view of the world.

Parents are no longer parenting, they are befriending their children and are actually afraid to take on the role they have been given as a parent. Unfortunately, dishonesty is often a learned trait. We do not realize the impact we have on our children when we constantly tell those “little white lies” that seem innocuous enough but are actually telling our children it is okay to lie. What parent hasn’t asked their child to answer the phone and tell the caller they are busy or even away from home? We must set better examples if we want our children to become honest adults.

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What Can Parents Do to Encourage Honesty?

Instilling Honesty in a child is not something that can be taught one time and mastered. It is an ongoing day-to-day process that first models the correct behavior, rewards Honesty, and punishes dishonesty. A child must learn there are repercussions to lying. If honesty is not being taught and expected at home, who will instill it in a child?

Many parents make the mistake of believing participation in sports will help their child to become an honest, upstanding citizen. Though that may have been true in the past, the creed of most youth sports leagues is creating even more of a problem of dishonesty because the coaches and support staff are simply looking for the win and not holding kids accountable for their actions.

In reality, no form of disciplined activity can fully teach a child to be honest, if Honesty is not an expected virtue in the home. No matter how much society tries to push boundaries, honesty is not overrated and never will be.

Children must be held accountable to their word. When a child lies, the lie should never be accepted by the parent and parents should never help their child lie, for any reason. Demanding Honesty with no exceptions is difficult in parenting but is the only way to ensure the next generation does not continue to spiral into a world of deceit.

These tips can help parents instill honesty in their child:

* Children mimic what they see their parents doing. Be a good role model and let your word be your bond.

* Positive reinforcement is always beneficial. When a child has told the truth, make sure they understand how much it pleases you.

* The punishment should fit the crime. If a child is caught lying, some type of punishment needs to be given so they can learn lying is not acceptable.

* Hold your child accountable for every word they say. Help them understand how important their trustworthiness is.

Martial Arts Can Further Enhance a Parent’s Efforts to Mold an Honest Child

Many parents send their children to the Boy Scouts or make them join a sports team because they believe the coach or scout leader has some sort of magic wand they can wave over the child and suddenly make them trustworthy. While Martial Arts is a practice that demands a firm foundation of Honesty, the work must first begin at home for success.

Martial Arts requires a great amount of discipline and teaches a child to be held accountable to their sensei, dojo, and themselves. The benefits of this discipline can have far-reaching positive effects on a child that will stay with them for the rest of their lives.

Parents who want to further instill honesty in their child can receive the reinforcement they need through Martial Arts training. This training is available for children of all ages. Children who train under a sensei learn the core values that are so vital for ensuring they become responsible adults who value honesty and refuse to succumb to the societal pressures that cause people to lose their trustworthiness.


Being a parent is one of the most difficult roles you will ever have. Parenting is not easy and we all make mistakes. Even if you have allowed your child to grow lax in their code of honor, it is never too late to begin reinforcing honesty and requiring it. By modeling the behaviors and values you want for your child, you are reinforcing them more effectively than with words alone.

As a part of the process of training a child to be honest, Martial Arts is a tool that can be used to transform them and help them better understand the consequences of dishonesty. Martial Arts, when coupled with effective parenting, can make a huge difference in a child’s life and put them on the path to success so they can grow up to be a trustworthy adult who is respected in life.

Easy Ways to Increase A Child’s Confidence in Any Sport


Your child might show some promising signs to be a star in their sport of choice. They have the physical attributes, the talent and look good in practice. When game day comes, they forget everything and flop miserably.

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So how can a parent increase their child’s confidence in any sport? There are a few easy ways to boost that self-esteem to make your kids perform and live up to their full potential. In order to make sports a positive experience, your child will need to feel good and develop a healthy attitude towards sports and physical activities in general.

Remember, the key point here is to be supportive instead of being overly critical. Don’t relate success and failure to winning and losing. Youth sports is all about acquiring the skills and gaining mastery over a sport. When a child performs up to his maximum potential and still loses, don’t dwell on the losing part and start criticizing. In the same vein, a win doesn’t necessarily mean a personal victory if your child does not perform his best during the game.

Boost your kid’s self-esteem using these simple techniques:

-Encourage him or her to constantly challenge themselves and improve.

-Give your child the freedom he or she needs when participating in a sport. They should be the ones to set their goals and reasons for playing.

-Support and don’t coach your kid from the sidelines. Parenting is separate from coaching for a good reason.

-Make the sport fun for your kid.

-Whether they win or lose, provide encouragement and unconditional love.

-Teach your kid the valuable lessons that come with losing.

-Think more about the process and less about the game results.

-Lastly, don’t compare and respect your child’s individual difference.

Even if your child does not do too well on his or her chosen sport, you can contribute by boosting their confidence on it. Confidence is such a valuable factor that can be applied to any aspect in life, whether in the court, in school or in real life. Show faith and reassure your child that he or she has the ability to take their preferred sports to the next level. If a child isn’t critiqued by the parent, then they will likely turn to the next best thing- their coaches. When a coach is qualified enough to provide invaluable insights and tips, then they will be the experts at individual improvement of a team member.

Furthermore, as a child is genuinely enjoying his or her training, then they will more likely be doing it more often. As they train more, then they eventually get better at it.

Martial arts is one of the best sports your child can enroll to for development of confidence. It’s an optimally conducive environment for the young ones because here, they can practice and learn at their own pace and at their own speed.

Students can get achievements and higher rankings through levels to encourage them to strive harder. The classes themselves have a social interactivity often absent from the other competitive sports. Your child will make new friends and they will have a safe experience getting out of their comfort zone. It can be the perfect springboard to a better, more confident life for your child.

15 Tips to Help Kids Build Confidence


Here’s a comprehensive, detailed collection of tips and guides on how to build your child’s self-confidence:

1. Give The Gift Of Unconditional Love. There’s probably nothing better than an unconditional, no-strings attached love to boost a child’s self-confidence. Show them that you love them no matter what they did or who they are, regardless of temperament, attitude, difficulties and weaknesses or strengths. When at fault, make it clear that you are upset with his or her actions and not the person.

2. Pay Attention. However busy your day might be, set some quality time and give your child your full, undivided attention. Your child will feel special and loved this way. It doesn’t have to be overblown and lengthy- just put away that mobile phone or TV remote and direct your gaze to your child. Answer a question, help them with homework or just let them read to you works wonders in increasing their self-esteem.

3. Teach Rules and Limits. Enforce house rules and your kid will understand that there are boundaries, which makes him or her feel more secure.

4. Encourage Physical Activities. Part of the parenting process is letting your child do new things, such taking up martial arts. Various achievements that can be garnered at a martial arts class can be incentive enough for your kid to try and reach his or her true potential. It can empower your child to speak up and voice their opinions, overall making them less shy.

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5. Try Something New. What’s better than taking safe, calculated risks to bring your kids out of their comfort zone? Have them ride a trike, eat new food or try a new hobby. Be there beside them for support.

6. Mistakes Are OK. In this picture-perfect world where everyone is afraid to make mistakes, people forget that mistakes build up confidence and other essential life skills. Instead of pointing out the error, make them think about what went wrong and what they can do next time.

7. Instill A Sense of Adventure. Build up self-esteem by putting your child in an environment where they can explore in relative safety. Try enrolling them in a martial arts class with other kids with or without supervision, or in a sports-themed camp.

8. Get Comfortable with Emotions. Encourage your kid to talk about his feelings. Accept how he feels and try not to judge and you’ll validate his feelings.

9. Don’t Compare. There’s nothing more deflating to your child’s self-esteem than comparison with his or her peers. Instead of pointing out the bad, do the opposite and appreciate their uniqueness and individuality.

10. Encourage Whenever You Can. All of us need the support and encouragement of our friends and family, and kids are no different. Simple words such as “Keep Going!” and “You’re Almost There!” acknowledge their efforts and make the feel valuable.

11. Set Realistic Goals. Help your child set realistic goals that they can reasonably accomplish. Give support by holding them accountable to their goal. Start it off small to minimize failure, then build up the challenges and activities as you go. In time, they’d get comfortable and be ready for bigger undertakings.

12. Celebrate Positivity. Point out the good things your child does each and everyday, either directly to him or within earshot. Encouragement is great, but telling another person is better because your child will get to bask in the glow of your praise!

13. Teach Time Management. Empower your kid to take charge of his own day-to-day schedule the right way. Set a timetable for essential events such as sleeping time and doing chores, then praise them for being responsible when they accomplish the tasks.

14. Teach Them to Help Others. The practice of helping out those less fortunate gives a unique reward in itself. Soon, your kids will see how lucky they are and realize their potential. They will also learn that giving can be just as fun as receiving.

15. Introduce Social Skills. Lastly, don’t forget to give them outside freedom such as having them join their preferred clubs and in doing sports and other outdoor activities. Don’t forget that martial arts can provide some unbeatable social benefits, i.e, have them interact with their peers and teamwork skills. Having a mentor can also be invaluable especially if your child expresses real interest in their fields of expertise.

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Taking Martial Arts With Your Child Can Help Build Their Self-Esteem

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In today’s world, ensuring your child develops a healthy self-esteem is probably one of your most important parenting goals. Fortunately, we live in a time when there is advice available everywhere explaining how to help build your child’s self-esteem. One tip that applies to all parenting styles is actually very simple. Spend time with your child, preferably doing an activity that keeps you both active, yet avoids competition and also offers a chance to have fun and even learn something. Martial arts is one of the few activities that meets all of this criteria and allows you to do something alongside your child.

If you have never considered it, here’s a quick look at what lessons you will learn from training in martial arts, as well as how they will benefit you both.ata family

Getting Good at Something Takes Time and Effort

By participating in martial arts with your child, you are teaching them that it takes time and effort to get better at something. When your child sees that you are having to work just as hard as they are to learn a new skill, it shows them that everyone starts at same starting point and sometimes it takes countless times to finally master something. This will rub off on them. For example, if their self-esteem has taken a hit because they are struggling in algebra, they’ll have greater understanding of the importance of trying again and again until they get it right.

Increased Security in their Ability to Take Care of Themselves

Knowing that you are capable of protecting yourself in essentially any situation naturally boosts your self-efficacy and self-confidence. In addition, realizing that through martial arts you are getting in better shape may also help improve your child’s self-esteem, as well as your own.

Importance of Working to Meet Your Goals

For many children, one of the most exciting aspects of martial arts is advancing up the belt scale. Setting goals, such as moving from a white belt to a yellow belt, and achieving these goals also helps children gain self-esteem. You may also find that your self-esteem benefits as well, as you move up the belt scale. As your self-esteem increases, your child is almost certain to take notice, which will benefit them as well.

Parenting is not an easy job. There are always concerns. Are you spending enough time with your child? Are you preparing them for obstacles they may face in the future? Are you helping your child develop a healthy self-esteem? By taking martial arts together, you can confidently answer yes to each of these questions.