Your child might show some promising signs to be a star in their sport of choice. They have the physical attributes, the talent and look good in practice. When game day comes, they forget everything and flop miserably.
So how can a parent increase their child’s confidence in any sport? There are a few easy ways to boost that self-esteem to make your kids perform and live up to their full potential. In order to make sports a positive experience, your child will need to feel good and develop a healthy attitude towards sports and physical activities in general.
Remember, the key point here is to be supportive instead of being overly critical. Don’t relate success and failure to winning and losing. Youth sports is all about acquiring the skills and gaining mastery over a sport. When a child performs up to his maximum potential and still loses, don’t dwell on the losing part and start criticizing. In the same vein, a win doesn’t necessarily mean a personal victory if your child does not perform his best during the game.
Boost your kid’s self-esteem using these simple techniques:
-Encourage him or her to constantly challenge themselves and improve.
-Give your child the freedom he or she needs when participating in a sport. They should be the ones to set their goals and reasons for playing.
-Support and don’t coach your kid from the sidelines. Parenting is separate from coaching for a good reason.
-Make the sport fun for your kid.
-Whether they win or lose, provide encouragement and unconditional love.
-Teach your kid the valuable lessons that come with losing.
-Think more about the process and less about the game results.
-Lastly, don’t compare and respect your child’s individual difference.
Even if your child does not do too well on his or her chosen sport, you can contribute by boosting their confidence on it. Confidence is such a valuable factor that can be applied to any aspect in life, whether in the court, in school or in real life. Show faith and reassure your child that he or she has the ability to take their preferred sports to the next level. If a child isn’t critiqued by the parent, then they will likely turn to the next best thing- their coaches. When a coach is qualified enough to provide invaluable insights and tips, then they will be the experts at individual improvement of a team member.
Furthermore, as a child is genuinely enjoying his or her training, then they will more likely be doing it more often. As they train more, then they eventually get better at it.
Martial arts is one of the best sports your child can enroll to for development of confidence. It’s an optimally conducive environment for the young ones because here, they can practice and learn at their own pace and at their own speed.
Students can get achievements and higher rankings through levels to encourage them to strive harder. The classes themselves have a social interactivity often absent from the other competitive sports. Your child will make new friends and they will have a safe experience getting out of their comfort zone. It can be the perfect springboard to a better, more confident life for your child.
Here’s a collection of tips and guides on how to build your child’s self-confidence:
1. Give The Gift Of Unconditional Love. There’s probably nothing better than an unconditional, no-strings attached love to boost a child’s self-confidence. Show them that you love them no matter what they did or who they are, regardless of temperament, attitude, difficulties and weaknesses or strengths. When at fault, make it clear that you are upset with his or her actions and not the person.
2. Pay Attention. However busy your day might be, set some quality time and give your child your full, undivided attention. Your child will feel special and loved this way. It doesn’t have to be overblown and lengthy- just put away that mobile phone or TV remote and direct your gaze to your child. Answer a question, help them with homework or just let them read to you works wonders in increasing their self-esteem.
3. Teach Rules and Limits. Enforce house rules and your kid will understand that there are boundaries, which makes him or her feel more secure.
4. Encourage Physical Activities. Part of the parenting process is letting your child do new things, such taking up martial arts. Various achievements that can be garnered at a martial arts class can be incentive enough for your kid to try and reach his or her true potential. It can empower your child to speak up and voice their opinions, overall making them less shy.
5. Try Something New. What’s better than taking safe, calculated risks to bring your kids out of their comfort zone? Have them ride a trike, eat new food or try a new hobby. Be there beside them for support.
6. Mistakes Are OK. In this picture-perfect world where everyone is afraid to make mistakes, people forget that mistakes build up confidence and other essential life skills. Instead of pointing out the error, make them think about what went wrong and what they can do next time.
7. Instill A Sense of Adventure. Build up self-esteem by putting your child in an environment where they can explore in relative safety. Try enrolling them in a martial arts class with other kids with or without supervision, or in a sports-themed camp.
8. Get Comfortable with Emotions. Encourage your kid to talk about his feelings. Accept how he feels and try not to judge and you’ll validate his feelings.
9. Don’t Compare. There’s nothing more deflating to your child’s self-esteem than comparison with his or her peers. Instead of pointing out the bad, do the opposite and appreciate their uniqueness and individuality.
10. Encourage Whenever You Can. All of us need the support and encouragement of our friends and family, and kids are no different. Simple words such as “Keep Going!” and “You’re Almost There!” acknowledge their efforts and make the feel valuable.
11. Set Realistic Goals. Help your child set realistic goals that they can reasonably accomplish. Give support by holding them accountable to their goal. Start it off small to minimize failure, then build up the challenges and activities as you go. In time, they’d get comfortable and be ready for bigger undertakings.
12. Celebrate Positivity. Point out the good things your child does each and everyday, either directly to him or within earshot. Encouragement is great, but telling another person is better because your child will get to bask in the glow of your praise!
13. Teach Time Management. Empower your kid to take charge of his own day-to-day schedule the right way. Set a timetable for essential events such as sleeping time and doing chores, then praise them for being responsible when they accomplish the tasks.
14. Teach Them to Help Others. The practice of helping out those less fortunate gives a unique reward in itself. Soon, your kids will see how lucky they are and realize their potential. They will also learn that giving can be just as fun as receiving.
15. Introduce Social Skills. Lastly, don’t forget to give them outside freedom such as having them join their preferred clubs and in doing sports and other outdoor activities. Don’t forget that martial arts can provide some unbeatable social benefits, i.e, have them interact with their peers and teamwork skills. Having a mentor can also be invaluable especially if your child expresses real interest in their fields of expertise.
Martial arts have become popular, and for good reasons. It’s one of the best ways for protecting yourself and has been seen to help develop a fitter and healthier individual.
Why Do You need to Make Your Kids Learn Martial Arts?
If you are thinking of signing up your kid for martial arts, the question of ‘why martial arts’ is sure to have crossed your mind – there are a good number of other activities available for kids. Martial Arts, however, has a blend of benefits that are unique only to it.
Obesity is a growing problem. If you instill healthy habits in children from a young age, the benefits stick with them for life. However, you can’t expect a kid to enjoy going to the gym or do something which expressly seems like exercise.
With children being so involved in the digital world from such an early age, the task of even getting them outdoors can seem hard. Martial arts is one of those things where the kids just end up becoming fit while having fun.
Success in other athletic endeavor
Whether it is PE class, Boy Scouts camp or any other sport they wish to pick, martial arts training gives them an ability to excel at other athletic endeavors – giving them a superiority in terms of skill, endurance, coordination and flexibility.
Balance and posture
Poor posture is something that children don’t notice until they are well into their teens. Poor posture not only stops you from looking your best, it also causes organ cramping, results in improper breathing and a host of other problems. Martial Arts is considered one of the best ways to help train a strong posture and balance.
Self defense is a skill that will help boys and girls of any age. The ability to defend themselves can stay with them as they become adults and be available to them for the rest of their lives too. You, as a parent, can also rest assured that your child is able to fend for themselves when it comes to bullying situations that may get physically dangerous.
Martial arts has also been proven to help people create an outlet for their pent up emotions, and battle stress and anxiety easily. With kids, martial arts can be both fun and healthy – once you learn the proper form, techniques and movements. With such an all inclusive activity, your child can be sure to benefit.
A common concern among parents of today’s generation of millennials is a lack of discipline and respect. This has manifested in a variety of settings, including schools, home and social spheres. What does Martial Arts have to do with respect? For many moms and dads out there, martial arts is associated with pop culture such as film, television and gaming. The violent depictions of battle scenes gives Martial Arts a negative connotation. This article provides more insight into martial arts and dispels the popular myth that it breeds a culture of violence. Although there are other benefits of martial arts, including personal fitness and self esteem development, the focus is upon how martial arts can instill values such as respect.
It’s easy enough to complain about a lack of respect among kids, but it is important to define what respect is. In many ways, respect involves looking up to, and following directions from authority figures and following an appropriate system of etiquette. Another element of respect relates to how children interact with each other. This manifests itself in the everyday interactions between siblings at home, or cooperation between students in a school setting. The final dimension we will examine is self-respect, which is often overlooked.
Before moving to the specifics of the link between martial arts and respect, it is important to dispel a few more myths about martial arts, for concerned parents. One of the biggest misconceptions is that martial arts teaches deadly strikes and violent attacks. In martial arts such as karate and judo, the focus is more upon deflecting the energy from an attack and redirecting it with minimal force. Apart from sparring and practicing of self defense techniques, students take part in physical fitness exercises and even visualization and goal setting practice.
A Different Cultural Perspective
As many are aware, the popular martial arts have their roots in Asian countries. Judo and Karate originate from Japan, while Tae Kwon Do originates in Korea. Compared to western cultures, these Asian cultures arguably demand greater discipline and respect for authority in schools and homes. In Japan, for instance, it is not uncommon for students to go to school on Saturday and to attend night Juku/’cram’ classes to prepare for examinations. Compared to western schooling, kids in Asian countries such as Japan face a grueling demand from their schooling and must develop discipline and respect from an early age. Taking up a hobby that originates from such cultures has the benefit of exposing children to a small taste of the discipline that is demanded from children of such cultures. One of the side benefits of hobbies such as martial arts is the respect for other cultures that it instills.
Goal setting, the end of instant gratification and self-entitlement
Martial arts encourages students to work slowly towards a goal. Lack of respect often comes from a sense of self-entitlement. This is natural, as children are raised in a culture of instant gratification that comes from popular hobbies such as gaming. Tae Kwon Do grading ceremonies are an example of martial arts cultivating values that are the exact opposite of instant gratification and entitlement. Students commence studies with a white belt and are taught some very basic patterns. At each grading, students work their way through various levels of colored belts and black belt and even have to earn colored belt tips before earning the full colored belt. Working through these belt gradings is not done quickly; only when the student has proved that they are ready for the next level. Students are graded in an audience and when they proceed to the next level, there is a sense of pride. This comes from truly earning the belt colors and stripes from the hard work that is required. This gradual grading system is a refreshing change from the usual hobbies that produce instant gratification and prepares kids for other facets of life. The value of starting from the bottom and working upwards and having respect for earning a higher position rather than demanding it is applicable to the work force. Within this process, there is a certain level of humility that comes from being graded on performance.
Respect for authority
Martial arts also helps children to develop a respect for authority figures. At the beginning of a lesson, students are all expected to stand still and to bow to the instructor. The instructor may also be given an honorific title such as ‘sah bum nim’ (which, in Korean, is translated as teacher or master). Students who wish to progress to a higher belt also need to perform in front of even higher senior instructors, who will assess the skills and decide on the outcome of the grading. This also assists in the teaching of discipline towards authority figures. Unfortunately, modern western cultures have placed a diminished focus on the level of authority for figures such as teachers, parents and other adult figures. Martial arts is a discipline that would undoubtedly expose children to authority figures that command a higher level of ceremony and respect.
Learning to Listen
Another common complaint from moms and dads (and teachers) is children not listening to them and not following instructions. Teachers and parents are often at odds over the lack of mental attentiveness to school work and household chores and how this could impact their academic careers. In order to master the patterns, defence strategies and important martial arts moves, the student will need to listen carefully to the instructor. They also must pay close attention to the opponent, in a sparring simulation exercise. The enjoyment of reaching to a higher grade and earning a new belt can only be achieved if the child listens very carefully to the instructor. Martial arts is one of those hobbies that really develops those essential listening skills.
Self control and respectful relationships
Self control is another attribute of being a respectful person. Lack of self control in children can result in verbal and physical outbursts. Each of the martial arts disciplines has a specific set of skills. In sparring practice, students are paired up and practice their skills in a very controlled environment. It requires calmness and self discipline as well as other virtues such as mutual respect for the opponent and trust in order to carry out sparring practice. With moves that require sharper punches and kicks, such as Tae Kwon Do, the powerful blows are often practiced on punching bags. Practicing these powerful moves on an inanimate object is a healthy way for children to channel their aggression or frustrations. Martial arts often involves sessions of visualization and goal setting, which in themselves require another dimension of self control. Relaxation and focus provide relief from anger or aggression in adults, so the same could be said for children. Parents may find that their children can have the capacity to be more respectful to others when they have a greater sense of self control.
Respect for peers
When it comes to respect, respect of authority is one dimension that has been discussed thus far. Of equal importance is building respectful relationships between peers and in differing social situations. Martial Arts can help develop social skills and build the importance of respect between peers. In sparring practices, students are required to bow to one another. This teaches kids that in a competitive situation, respect for the sport and the opponents involved in it are of up most importance. Bowing at the beginning of a combat sets the tone for a respectful exchange. Trust is also an element that is built into any practice situations. In order to practice the specific martial arts skills, students must also communicate, thus building an element of team work into this sport. Being graded by a set of strict criteria specific to the martial arts discipline means that sparring between partners must follow a certain set of rules and parameters. This requires self discipline between the opponents, a mutual respect and mutual trust. Anti-social type behaviors can manifest itself in the home and in the schoolyard. In a martial arts studio, students are in the same space with a set of similar goals and this is conducive to building friendships and social interaction. These peer skills can easily be transferred to both home and school settings, where children have been encouraged to not only respect the authority figure in the martial arts studio, but also respect for peers.
The final element of respect is self-respect. As discussed previously, martial arts encourages students to develop a set of goals in the belt grading system. Reaching each of these milestones, based on hard work and merit, instills a greater sense of self-respect.
How martial arts is applied to other aspects of life
So far, the positive attributes associated with respect have been closely linked to the different aspect of martial arts disciplines. The next concern among parents becomes apparent. ‘What if my child learns greater respect for his/her martial arts instructor, but continues to be disrespectful to parents and teachers’? It may be true that children may display different attributes to match the situation. Is there advice for helping children apply martial arts respect skills to everyday life? If children take up martial arts, open the dialogue with them and encourage them to talk about what they learnt about respect. Even though they may be inclined to talk about the latest move they learnt to disarm an opponent, try to emphasize what they learnt about respect. Parents can also ask probing questions such as ‘how will your martial arts make you happier at school’? ‘Do you think you should show your teachers the same respect as your Martial Arts instructor’? Children, left to their own devices, won’t necessarily be reflective about their experiences and what they have learnt. Parents can ask these sort of questions and open up some honest dialogue to provide the scaffolding needed to encourage their children to reflect upon what they have learnt and how they view respect for other authority figures in their lives. Children who take up martial arts also have the potential to make new social interactions. Depending on the age of the child, parents can help encourage these interactions by getting to know the other moms and dads and their children.
Advice for the more adventurous parents
The last piece of advice is for the moms and dads who are more daring than others. Martial arts classes can be attended as a family. Although it might be a step outside of the usual comfort zone for parents, taking part in these classes as a family could be a major bonding opportunity, as family members support each other to reach the next grading level. Treating martial arts classes as a family activity could help younger kids to see their parents showing the same respect towards the instructor that is demanded of all students. This family bonding activity might not apply to all situations. Not all parents will have an inclination to take up self defense and that’s understandable.
The different dimensions of respect have been discussed as well as how the discipline of martial arts can help to cultivate these skills. In order to help children to apply these skills, it is important to talk to them and help them reflect on their learning experiences. In some families, martial arts can be taken up as a family hobby, with many benefits. Children are able to take up martial arts at any age, even before age 6, where it can help children develop muscle control and coordination.
Every parent wants to raise a trustworthy child who is held in high regard among their family members, friends, co-workers, and society in general. We all have seen those kids who grow up with no moral compass and seem to find themselves trudging through life with no direction and no respect for themselves or others. No parent wants to face having raised a child who is dishonest. So, what can you do to prevent your child from becoming one of “those kids” who grows up to be someone no one can trust?
What Happens When a Child Grows Up Being Dishonest?
While it may not seem like such a big deal when a child is only five years old and tells lies on a frequent basis, this behavior will no longer be accepted once the child reaches adulthood. Children who grow up telling lies on a regular basis are not respected by family members, teachers, friends, or people in the community. A child who is labeled as dishonest often carries that title with them for life, especially if they become a lying adult who does not change their ways. Dishonesty can often lead to:
* Failure in school
* Issues with college admissions
* Difficulty gaining employment
* Difficulty keeping employment
* Problems with personal relationships
* Problems with breaking the law
Dishonesty creates a slippery slope that can become easy for a child to become entrapped in. It seems one lie leads to another and another and before you know it, a child is having difficulty distinguishing between reality and the make believe world they have created with their lies. As Sir Walter Scott said, “Oh what a tangled web we weave, when first we practice to deceive.” Oh, how true this quote is!
What Makes A Child Become Untrustworthy?
Before we launch too far out into the deep, it is important parents realize children are going to lie from time to time and this does not necessarily mean they will turn out to be a deceitful adult. Children may lie for a variety of reasons, including:
* To avoid being disciplined
* To receive a reward
* To protect others
* To enhance self-esteem
* To protect their privacy
Unfortunately, it does not take long for a child to develop a habit of dishonesty, especially if they are not disciplined appropriately when caught in a lie. While discipline is crucial for helping a child develop a habit of honesty, the wrong discipline can cause further problems that can be difficult to address.
What Is the Wrong Way to Address Dishonesty?
When a parent realizes their child has committed a serious lie, they are often devastated. Suddenly finding out your child has lied to you in a big way can be hurtful and make you very angry. Often, parents become so angry with finding out their child lied, they go overboard on punishment, thinking they are doing the right thing and this will “wake up” their child. Regrettably, this signals to the child to forego telling the truth in the future because they do not want to face such a stiff punishment.
As parents, we can often feel we are doing the right thing when we are actually doing the direct opposite. Instead of encouraging our children to tell the truth, we act as policemen, doing our best to catch them in lies and then bringing on swift punishment. Yes, discipline is crucial but modeling the correct behavior and open communication are even more so for developing honesty in a child.
Parenting can be difficult when it comes to knowing how to properly discipline a child and address their issues with dishonesty. Although it can be cumbersome instilling a child with honesty, the benefits lead to a child who is self-assured and has moral integrity. When a child becomes a trustworthy adult, doors of opportunity await them.
How Can Parents Instill Honesty in Their Child?
Modeling the desired behavior is crucial for success in helping a child become honest. As a parent, we often make the mistake of telling those “little white lies” on a regular basis and do not even realize what we are doing to our children.
How often have you lied to a telemarketer or refused to come to the phone, making up an excuse? Do your children see you telling lies on a regular basis? We all make the mistake of forgetting our children are watching us all the time. We tell a friend their new haircut looks great and then we get home and say what we really feel. Is this the proper way for us to model honest behavior? After all, children are going to pay attention more to what we do than what we say!
These tips can help parents instill honesty in their child:
* Try to avoid lying in front of your children. If you do find you have lied, explain why you did. Use this as a lesson to help a child understand why it may have been better had you not lied and what you could do differently in the future.
* Do not attempt to trap a child in a lie, even if you are positive they are about to. Allow them time to talk to you and reveal the truth in their own way.
* Do not confront a child with their lie if you are upset or angry because you will be more likely to be overly harsh in your conversation and the punishment you choose.
* Begin teaching smaller children the importance of honesty at an early age. If honesty is required from an early age, a child is less likely to develop lying habits.
* Older children can be taught the valuable lesson of honesty by informing them of the devastating consequences of dishonesty in relationships. They need to know once trust has been broken, it can be very difficult to mend.
Because a fear of punishment is the most common reason adults and children lie, it is important punishments are approached carefully. Punishments should be put in place before a child ever lies. It is a good idea to have a warning system in place so a child does not get punished for their first offense. The punishment should match the severity of the lie and the parent needs to be sure they do not close their child off to the point they avoid open communication in the future.
Instilling Discipline Begins at Home But Should Not Stop There
Honesty is a crucial life skill every child must master before they step out into adulthood and are on their own. If this life skill is not taught from an early age, it will become increasingly difficult for a parent to pursue because their child will have already developed bad habits. The more a child is allowed to lie and get away with it, the easier it becomes.
A big part of teaching a child honesty is being there for them no matter what. They need to know they can come to you, no matter what they may have done, and your thoughts towards them will not change. They need to feel comfortable opening up to you and becoming vulnerable. If you can successfully foster that type of relationship with your child, they are going to be more open and honest with you and there will be fewer episodes of lying to deal with.
Discipline is a big part of honesty and a child who is disciplined will be better able to self-regulate themselves. It is important to note discipline is not just punishment. Living a disciplined life means having order and not chaos. It means being held to your honor and guarding your reputation against anything that might arise and cause it to be tarnished.
While some parents enroll their kids in the Boy Scouts or make them join a sports team to gain a code of honor, this is not going to be beneficial if the child is not being disciplined at home. They need to be held accountable for the things they say and do. No group or mentor can instill honesty without the intervention of the parents or caregiver.
Martial Arts Can Add Discipline to a Child’s Life
Martial Arts is a practice that can change a wayward child if they have the full support of their parents. When a child is involved in Martial Arts, they must be held accountable to their sensei and fellow classmates. Lying is something that can be detrimental to training and is not accepted in any form. Not only is a child expected to be honest to others, they must also be honest with themselves.
A bond must develop between a student and their Martial Arts instructor but it can not develop properly if both parties are not honest. From the moment a child is enrolled in Martial Arts training, they are taught to be honest with themselves. Self-deception is one of the most destructive of lies because it can deeply affect a child’s ability to prosper in school, at home, and in life. Self-deception is one of the easiest bad habits to master because it is very difficult for others to detect since it is all done internally.
Martial Arts aids in the development of integrity which is a crucial part of becoming an adult. The instructors help kids to fully address their shortcomings instead of making excuses for them and inadvertently lying. When a kid is being taught honesty at home and is involved in Martial Arts training that is further instilling honesty, they will begin to change in positive ways and lying will no longer be a part of their psyche.
Learning the discipline of Martial Arts requires a child to be held responsible for their own actions. If a child is allowed to make excuses for their behavior, they are likely to end up becoming the type of person that fails at everything in life. When a child is training in Martial Arts, they must be disciplined in their training and practice. If they fail when tested, they will have no one to blame but themselves so they learn they cannot cover up their failures with lies.
When Martial Arts is combined with a strong focus of honesty at home, kids learn this crucial life skill and develop a strong sense of pride in becoming a trustworthy individual. Their reputation will become something they treasure instead of something they disrespect and do not hold in high regard.
Anyone who is a parent knows parenting is not easy, even if you have a model child. We always second-guess ourselves and worry whether or not we are making the right decisions in parenting. If a parent works on practicing honesty themselves and requiring it of their child, they can instill honesty in a profound way. Adding Martial Arts training can further the honesty lessons a child receives, giving rise to kids who are self-confident and honorable in their words and actions.
Kids these days! How many times has this statement been uttered as older people shake their heads in wonder? Unfortunately, honesty is no longer the existential character trait people once highly regarded. Instead, we are creating a generation that feels they do not have to be honest and actually are inadvertently rewarded for being dishonest.
Although we could attempt to blame society, television, even the school system for the lack of honesty among the younger generations, parents need to be aware of the role they have played in creating untrustworthy offspring. Generations past were held to much higher standards than they are today and many children are growing up under the falsehood they do not have to be accountable to anyone. So, where have we gone wrong as parents and what can be done to right the wrongs before society delves deeper into subterfuge?
Why Were the “Old Ways” Better Ways?
It seems each generation has attempted to improve upon the last by leaving behind what they consider old-fashioned methods of parenting. Forty years ago, children were taught a person’s word was of paramount importance and lying caused a tremendous blight on their character.
When a child lied, they were punished for their indiscretions and they were no longer trusted until they could prove themselves trustworthy again, which took a lot of work and character development on their part. This raised up a generation of men and women who gave their word and meant it. There was no need for drawn-out contracts and promissory notes because people could generally rely on a person’s word as their bond.
We must take a look at what has changed over the years to understand why Honesty is no longer considered a respectable trait to have. One of the biggest changes over the last fifty years has been both parents entering the workforce and leaving kids to raise themselves. Many parents are working full-time jobs, sometimes two, and the kids are suffering because they are being raised by video games, television, and the Internet, which create a pseudo-reality that contaminates a child’s view of the world.
Parents are no longer parenting, they are befriending their children and are actually afraid to take on the role they have been given as a parent. Unfortunately, dishonesty is often a learned trait. We do not realize the impact we have on our children when we constantly tell those “little white lies” that seem innocuous enough but are actually telling our children it is okay to lie. What parent hasn’t asked their child to answer the phone and tell the caller they are busy or even away from home? We must set better examples if we want our children to become honest adults.
What Can Parents Do to Encourage Honesty?
Instilling Honesty in a child is not something that can be taught one time and mastered. It is an ongoing day-to-day process that first models the correct behavior, rewards Honesty, and punishes dishonesty. A child must learn there are repercussions to lying. If honesty is not being taught and expected at home, who will instill it in a child?
Many parents make the mistake of believing participation in sports will help their child to become an honest, upstanding citizen. Though that may have been true in the past, the creed of most youth sports leagues is creating even more of a problem of dishonesty because the coaches and support staff are simply looking for the win and not holding kids accountable for their actions.
In reality, no form of disciplined activity can fully teach a child to be honest, if Honesty is not an expected virtue in the home. No matter how much society tries to push boundaries, honesty is not overrated and never will be.
Children must be held accountable to their word. When a child lies, the lie should never be accepted by the parent and parents should never help their child lie, for any reason. Demanding Honesty with no exceptions is difficult in parenting but is the only way to ensure the next generation does not continue to spiral into a world of deceit.
These tips can help parents instill honesty in their child:
* Children mimic what they see their parents doing. Be a good role model and let your word be your bond.
* Positive reinforcement is always beneficial. When a child has told the truth, make sure they understand how much it pleases you.
* The punishment should fit the crime. If a child is caught lying, some type of punishment needs to be given so they can learn lying is not acceptable.
* Hold your child accountable for every word they say. Help them understand how important their trustworthiness is.
Martial Arts Can Further Enhance a Parent’s Efforts to Mold an Honest Child
Many parents send their children to the Boy Scouts or make them join a sports team because they believe the coach or scout leader has some sort of magic wand they can wave over the child and suddenly make them trustworthy. While Martial Arts is a practice that demands a firm foundation of Honesty, the work must first begin at home for success.
Martial Arts requires a great amount of discipline and teaches a child to be held accountable to their sensei, dojo, and themselves. The benefits of this discipline can have far-reaching positive effects on a child that will stay with them for the rest of their lives.
Parents who want to further instill honesty in their child can receive the reinforcement they need through Martial Arts training. This training is available for children of all ages. Children who train under a sensei learn the core values that are so vital for ensuring they become responsible adults who value honesty and refuse to succumb to the societal pressures that cause people to lose their trustworthiness.
Being a parent is one of the most difficult roles you will ever have. Parenting is not easy and we all make mistakes. Even if you have allowed your child to grow lax in their code of honor, it is never too late to begin reinforcing honesty and requiring it. By modeling the behaviors and values you want for your child, you are reinforcing them more effectively than with words alone.
As a part of the process of training a child to be honest, Martial Arts is a tool that can be used to transform them and help them better understand the consequences of dishonesty. Martial Arts, when coupled with effective parenting, can make a huge difference in a child’s life and put them on the path to success so they can grow up to be a trustworthy adult who is respected in life.
In today’s world, ensuring your child develops a healthy self-esteem is probably one of your most important parenting goals. Fortunately, we live in a time when there is advice available everywhere explaining how to help build your child’s self-esteem. One tip that applies to all parenting styles is actually very simple. Spend time with your child, preferably doing an activity that keeps you both active, yet avoids competition and also offers a chance to have fun and even learn something. Martial arts is one of the few activities that meets all of this criteria and allows you to do something alongside your child.
If you have never considered it, here’s a quick look at what lessons you will learn from training in martial arts, as well as how they will benefit you both.
Getting Good at Something Takes Time and Effort
By participating in martial arts with your child, you are teaching them that it takes time and effort to get better at something. When your child sees that you are having to work just as hard as they are to learn a new skill, it shows them that everyone starts at same starting point and sometimes it takes countless times to finally master something. This will rub off on them. For example, if their self-esteem has taken a hit because they are struggling in algebra, they’ll have greater understanding of the importance of trying again and again until they get it right.
Increased Security in their Ability to Take Care of Themselves
Knowing that you are capable of protecting yourself in essentially any situation naturally boosts your self-efficacy and self-confidence. In addition, realizing that through martial arts you are getting in better shape may also help improve your child’s self-esteem, as well as your own.
Importance of Working to Meet Your Goals
For many children, one of the most exciting aspects of martial arts is advancing up the belt scale. Setting goals, such as moving from a white belt to a yellow belt, and achieving these goals also helps children gain self-esteem. You may also find that your self-esteem benefits as well, as you move up the belt scale. As your self-esteem increases, your child is almost certain to take notice, which will benefit them as well.
Parenting is not an easy job. There are always concerns. Are you spending enough time with your child? Are you preparing them for obstacles they may face in the future? Are you helping your child develop a healthy self-esteem? By taking martial arts together, you can confidently answer yes to each of these questions.
It’s not uncommon for some kids to grow up with Martial Arts as one of their favorite sports or activities to participate in. This is usually because these children have parents that are very familiar with all or some of the benefits that’s associated with this kind of activity. Even though this kind of sport is fun for kids to learn and enjoy with others, there are a wide variety of health and fitness benefits that come along with this kind of training. So, for those of you who are interested in this sport for a kid that you know and love, here are some great health benefits that you should be aware of as you make your decision to get them started.
#1 – Provides Kids with a Total Body Workout
As stated previously, most kids will find that this sport is a lot of fun, but it will also provide them with a workout that they will need to stay healthy, fit and slim. This is because it is a high-aerobic workout that allows kids to make use of every muscle group in their body. As a result, children will be able to increase their stamina, build up their muscle tone, get flexible, all while helping them with their balance and increasing coordination.
#2 – Great Way to Have Fun and Lose Weight
Since kids all over the U.S. are struggling with obesity, it is essential that they get the help that they need as early as possible so that they do not suffer with illnesses and diseases early in life. With the right solution to these problems, this group of children can also avoid unnecessary problems that they will experience during their adult years as well. With this being said, when kids begin early being involved in sports like training in Martial Arts, they will find that they can burn tons of calories in every class and every time they practice. It is also important to note that these exercises can help to regulate the food cravings that kids normally experience.
#3 – Improved Cardiovascular Health
According to numerous research studies, scientists have found that the health of the heart can only be maintained and improved by various kinds of exercises if performed on a regular basis. Specifically, those that add additional stress to the heart. One of the most effective are those that kids can participate in, is Martial Arts; with its constantly varied intensities and even different forms of resistance (whether it is a training partner, a training pad or punching bag, and even breaking boards).
#4 – Better Mood and Helps Relieve Stress
Though some people may feel that stress is restricted to adults only, many researchers today have found that this is not necessarily the case. Because of the frustrations and problems that kids experience, their lives can also be impacted by this unwelcome enemy of the body. However, when kids are participating in activities like Martial Arts, many have found that this is a great way to improve a child’s mood, especially since it gives them an avenue to relieve their stress before it builds up and adversely affects the body.
Kids today live in a digital world where they are surrounded by technology. Often this technology keeps them from getting the exercise they need. This can lead to weight gain, depression, and other health-related issues. But getting kids off the sofa can be a difficult process. Luckily, there is a fun way to entice your kids to get up and moving. Martial arts are not only fun for kids, they also provide ample exercise that can help them lead healthier lives. Below we are going to learn more about how martial arts can improve your child’s health with fitness.
Many kids carry around a few extra pounds because of their sedimentary lifestyle. If left unchecked, this can lead to serious health issues including heart problems and diabetes. Getting your child into fitness is highly important and vital to their future. A fun way to help kids get the fitness they need and lose those unwanted pounds is by enrolling them in a martial arts program. This low impact sport is perfect for children of all ages. After a few weeks of training, you will start to notice the benefits and your child will feel much better about the way they look.
It’s Great for Heart Health
While we often only think of heart health when we get older, it’s important to start protecting your heart at an early age. Practicing martial arts is a great way to build your cardiovascular health and improve blood flow. As your child advance and takes on more physical tasks, he or she will build a healthy heart and improve their overall health. This is a great way to help your child live a long and disease-free life. Combined with diet and other forms of exercise, martial arts can keep you healthy.
Improvement in Mood
Depression is a major problem in children today. This is partly due to the fact that many kids don’t get enough exercise. Practicing martial arts is a wonderful and natural way to improve your child’s mood without the need for medications. By getting out of the house and getting physical exercise, children will have fewer symptoms of depression which can cut the risk of suicide. Martial arts will also provide your child with a greater sense of self-worth which we help them better navigate the world.
An Increase in Muscle Tone
As a martial arts student, your child will have to use many of their muscle in training. Over time their muscle mass will increase, and you will start to see a difference in your child’s fitness level. Having good muscle tone will help keep your child strong and prevent them from injury. If they like to play other sports that can be strenuous on the body, having muscle tone will keep them from getting hurt. Good muscle tone is also part of an overall healthy body.
Improved Cognitive Skills
Sitting around for many hours of the day can decrease your cognitive skills. This can lead to poor grades and poor decision making. A great way to improve your child’s cognitive skills is by enrolling them in a martial arts program. This will get them out of the house and do something physical that will help their brain health. You will also notice that your child will get better grades in school which is always an added bonus.
Another area of fitness that is very important is reflexes. If your child loves to play sports, then he or she will need to have fast reflexes in order to excel. Martial arts will improve overall reflexes and will help with muscle memory. Training as a martial arts student will help them do better on the playing field or the courtyard. No matter what type of sport your child plays, martial arts can sure help.
These are just a few ways that martial arts can improve your child’s fitness. By getting them off the sofa and away from their smart devices, they will become healthy and happy. The cost of martial arts class will pay for itself by providing your child with a bright and promising future. So make sure to signup your little one for a martial arts class in your area.
The words “martial arts” will certainly make you think about being in peak physical shape or knowing an array of chops, kicks and punches, but did you know that its greatest advantage is in teaching discipline and calming the mind? Moreover, it can teach you or your kids to develop a strong sense of discipline, perseverance and build up your confidence in ways other activities may not.
Discipline is one of the most important things one must learn in order to build up a strong foundation of self. The ability to control your thinking, response and emotions in any situation is invaluable in personal and professional aspects. By yourself, it can take several years to achieve a higher plane of discipline, but with martial arts, you’ll have the guidance and the expertise of the masters who will teach it to you firsthand. In short, the master will open up the path for you to learn about discipline and its benefits.
How can one learn about discipline with punches and kicks? It may not be obvious at first, but here’s how:
By Following Rules
All martial art disciplines will have a certain set of rules one must follow. A regular 1-hour class starts with a bow as a sign of respect to the dojo and the master. The practitioner will soon learn how to follow the rules at all times. In the martial arts classroom, martial arts students will also learn that they must treat one another the way they want to be treated. A good master will instill a sense of respect on how they treat peers, parents and teachers.
Self-discipline starts when one starts to recognize the value of following the rules. Your child will quickly learn that there are sets of rules to be followed not just in the dojo, but in everyday life as well. At home, in school or in public places, there are always rules to be followed. It helps them be law-abiding citizens and keeps them away from trouble, which translates to a higher degree of safety and peace of mind for the parent. Soon, your child will instinctively follow the set rules in school and even at home, i.e., household chores, curfews, etc.
By Establishing Realistic Goals
A wise martial arts master will give you certain actionable goals that’s wholly unique to yourself, laid out on an understandable step-by-step process. You’ll be guided along a well-planned journey that rewards you well on each goal you accomplish.
Instead of being overwhelmed by aiming for the highest rank, martial arts students are eased into completing smaller, realistic goals. Self-discipline is practiced all throughout because the student must guide his actions and mind towards reaching the goal. As you build up new skills and routines, you or your child must stay constantly on track and take the difficulties as challenges when they present themselves.
By Practicing Self-Control
Kids have too much energy; sometimes they get into fights or act out in aggression. Martial arts is a great way for them to use and channel the energy to developing useful skills to get fit, learn martial arts moves or become more disciplined. Martial arts isn’t really about using the moves you learned to gain the upper hand or to gain dominance; rather, it’s about learning and mastering the self. You’ll also learn how to strategize instead of using brute strength in any situation.
Better mental strength translates to a more confident self, whether for children or adults. The controlled, precise movements in martial arts will allow you to think about what you’re going to do next and if it’s the right thing to do. You’ll be equipped with the discipline to focus on a task and stick on it until it’s done. Parents who have kids that are diagnosed with ADHD report success when they enroll in martial arts classes because concentration, discipline and self-control is exactly what they’ll need to become successful.
By Gaining Self-Confidence
A martial arts student pursues the path of achieving a higher rank in a system that promotes hard work and discipline. The various colored belts allow the student to display their rank which commands respect but also holds them accountable to being a role model for their peers. This sense of accomplishment boosts self-confidence that won’t go away anytime soon.