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How Early Is Too Early To Teach A Child Self-Respect

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Have you ever considered enrolling your younger ones to a martial arts class? There are many reasons why young children should be advised to take martial arts classes. For example, they will learn how to improve their self-confidence and self-esteem, be discipline, learn and appreciate the reasons for the existence of rules and more. Read on to learn more about the benefits of signing your child for a martial arts class:

 

  1. They Will Gain Self Respect

Martial art is all about self-discipline and self-respect. As a parent, it’s always your responsibility to make sure that your child grows up to be a responsible person. Of course, you can teach him or her to be disciplined and have respect for other people, but you can’t teach them everything at home. Once you enrolled them to a martial arts class, they will be taught how to live with each other peacefully. They will learn how to respect each other and be disciplined at all times. In addition, they will also learn why drug abuse is not ideal for them.

 

  1. They Will Learn How to Solve Conflicts

When we were growing up bullying was a common problem at school. Nowadays, bullying isn’t a big problem as it used to be but it’s still there. There are many different ways to deal with this problem, but there is a right way to handle it. By choosing to sign up your younger ones for a martial arts class, you are giving them an opportunity to learn how to solve conflicts and play peacefully with their peers.

Our children are just like us, they will always disagree from time to time even during their training. A reputable martial arts instructor should be able to detect any form of bullying and solve the problem early before it becomes a big problem. If your child has bad temper, they will be taught how to control their temper and use the right to channels to solve their issues.

 

  1. Martial Arts Instills Self Confidence

If you want to achieve greater things in life, you should learn how to have faith in yourself. Martial arts teach children how to be independent and trust their instincts. There are many skills that your child will have to learn. The good news is, every time they learn a new skill, they get to boost their self-confidence and self-esteem. Their need of wanting to learn something new increases every time they realize that they can do it. What’s makes this training even more interesting is the rewards that they receive for completing their tasks successfully. This reward also acts as a sign of respect.

 

  1. They Will Learn How to Take Instructions

One thing about martial art is that you need to learn how to act on the instructions correctly. This means that you need to be attentive and listen carefully to what the instructor is saying. Some parents prefer to teach their children how to pay attention when someone is talking, especially when elderly person is talking, however there is a group of parents that prefer their children to learn these lessons from somewhere else.

If there is one thing that will teach your child how to accept instruction is martial arts. The people that teach them these skills were also taught by their predecessors and they are happy to instill the same knowledge to your younger ones. Martial arts teach people to be kind, respect other people and listen to what they have to say. These are great values that your child needs to learn.

 

  1. They Will Learn How to Set and Achieve Goals

Martial art practitioners are always awarded with belts after completing certain challenges successfully. These belts signify the mastery level that you are currently in. In addition, the people that wear these belts are highly respected in the society. Because of this, your child is motivated to work even harder. He or she will have to set goals and work hard to achieve his or her goals. This process teaches them to set goals and achieve them through working hard. As an added advantage, once your child accomplishes his or her goals, they will be more confident and very happy.

 

  1. They Will Make New Friends

If we are being honest, it’s not easy for some kids to make new friends. Making new friends is a very challenging process for many kids but it’s a very vital process. Studies show that people are likely to get to know each other better through a common interest. In this regard, there is a good chance that your child will make new friends if you signed them up for a martial arts class. Given that they will be spending some great amount of time with other kids every day, they are likely to bond and start new relationships. What’s more, you too will have an opportunity of meeting new people and probably make some new friends.


Improving a Child’s Respect with Martial Arts

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Wondering how learning martial artist could help you gain more respect? Turns out, knowing and doing what you love has more benefits than you could think of! Martial arts, for instance, helps build up your confidence levels and make you smarter in your life choices, apart from ensuring that you could protect yourself at all times.

Understanding how martial arts helps build up respect

Martial arts comprise of many different forms of practice. It has been age old in history and is all about keeping the mind and body alert and balanced; It benefits all young and adults in many different ways; and, It helps develop virtue, strength, confidence awareness of being and surrounding, and it also helps generate respect for existence around most of all for one’s own self.

There are many factors that underlie to unify the whole principle of martial arts. It not only deals with the body but a greater deal with the mind and inner self; It immensely helps in boosting one’s self esteem and, It helps rationalize a person’s behavior towards the environment around their living. The earlier a person starts following the intersection of the mind and body the easier it is to learn and develop.

One of the key ideologies of practicing martial arts is develop a sense of respect, for others and mostly for one’s own self. Teaching to respect is the most basic philosophy of martial arts. The first thing that is done in martial arts is bowing down to each other’s opponent. It helps bring about self-discipline which leads to discipline and respect towards life and everything you do in it. It makes you make a conscious effort to give it your best for a better life.

Helping Build Up Your Child’s Personality

Martial arts were developed for self-defense and never to attack on hurtful purpose. And if you could inculpate that belief in children, it could go a long way towards personality development.

It is very helpful for children to start practicing martial arts at an early age. Due to their nimble and flexible body, it is easier and faster for them to adapt to the proper ways of the art’s methods. This also helps stabilize themselves and their urge to fidget for the want of something new. It also does the same for adults as we are too busy and agitated in life to easily lose the calm. For example, when fights break out it is better to be able to be defending the fight without harming or disrespecting the other person.

The respect for the master by the student in martial arts does not just go one way. The greeting takes place equally for each other regardless of the level of learning. The whole art form is built around the values of respect. Respect is a huge form of appreciation for all the experiences regardless of its nature that one has been through. The higher sense of respect we have within ourselves the more we will be give it around and receive it.

Learning the true sense of martial arts helps understand and absorb the meaning of respect naturally and willingly without having it forced down, which often results in the opposite behavior. When respect is integrated into a person winning or losing is removed from the selfish radar of the mind.

Respect breaks down barriers between differences that hold people and minds apart in their everyday lives. Common courtesy helps a more congenial environment.


Can Teaching Respect Improve A Child’s Attitude

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Wondering how learning martial artist could help you gain more respect? Turns out, knowing and doing what you love has more benefits than you could think of! Martial arts, for instance, helps build up your confidence levels and make you smarter in your life choices, apart from ensuring that you could protect yourself at all times.

Understanding how martial arts helps build up respect

Martial arts comprise of many different forms of practice. It has been age old in history and is all about keeping the mind and body alert and balanced. It benefits all young and adults in many different ways. It helps develop virtue, strength, confidence awareness of being and surrounding, and it also helps generate respect for existence around most of all for one’s own self.

There are many factors that underlie to unify the whole principle of martial arts. It not only deals with the body but a greater deal with the mind and inner self. It immensely helps in boosting one’s self esteem. It helps rationalize a person’s behavior towards the environment around their living. The earlier a person starts following the intersection of the mind and body the easier it is to learn and develop.

One of the key ideologies of practicing martial arts is develop a sense of respect, for others and mostly for one’s own self. Teaching to respect is the most basic philosophy of martial arts. The first thing that is done in martial arts is bowing down to each other’s opponent. It helps bring about self-discipline which leads to discipline and respect towards life and everything you do in it. It makes you make a conscious effort to give it your best for a better life.

Helping Build Up Your Child’s Personality

Martial arts were developed for self-defense and never to attack on hurtful purpose. And if you could inculpate that belief in children, it could go a long way towards personality development.

It is very helpful for children to start practicing martial arts at an early age. Due to their nimble and flexible body, it is easier and faster for them to adapt to the proper ways of the art’s methods. This also helps stabilize themselves and their urge to fidget for the want of something new. It also does the same for adults as we are too busy and agitated in life to easily lose the calm. For example, when fights break out it is better to be able to be defending the fight without harming or disrespecting the other person.

The respect for the master by the student in martial arts does not just go one way. The greeting takes place equally for each other regardless of the level of learning. The whole art form is built around the values of respect. Respect is a huge form of appreciation for all the experiences regardless of its nature that one has been through. The higher sense of respect we have within ourselves the more we will be give it around and receive it.

Learning the true sense of martial arts helps understand and absorb the meaning of respect naturally and willingly without having it forced down, which often results in the opposite behavior. When respect is integrated into a person winning or losing is removed from the selfish radar of the mind.

Respect breaks down barriers between differences that hold people and minds apart in their everyday lives. Common courtesy helps a more congenial environment.


Martial Arts – Helping Children Become More Respectful

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A common concern among parents of today’s generation of millennials is a lack of discipline and respect. This has manifested in a variety of settings, including schools, home and social spheres. What does Martial Arts have to do with respect? For many moms and dads out there, martial arts is associated with pop culture such as film, television and gaming. The violent depictions of battle scenes gives Martial Arts a negative connotation. This article provides more insight into martial arts and dispels the popular myth that it breeds a culture of violence. Although there are other benefits of martial arts, including personal fitness and self esteem development, the focus is upon how martial arts can instill values such as respect.

It’s easy enough to complain about a lack of respect among kids, but it is important to define what respect is. In many ways, respect involves looking up to, and following directions from authority figures and following an appropriate system of etiquette. Another element of respect relates to how children interact with each other. This manifests itself in the everyday interactions between siblings at home, or cooperation between students in a school setting. The final dimension we will examine is self-respect, which is often overlooked.

Before moving to the specifics of the link between martial arts and respect, it is important to dispel a few more myths about martial arts, for concerned parents. One of the biggest misconceptions is that martial arts teaches deadly strikes and violent attacks. In martial arts such as karate and judo, the focus is more upon deflecting the energy from an attack and redirecting it with minimal force. Apart from sparring and practicing of self defense techniques, students take part in physical fitness exercises and even visualization and goal setting practice.

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A Different Cultural Perspective

As many are aware, the popular martial arts have their roots in Asian countries. Judo and Karate originate from Japan, while Tae Kwon Do originates in Korea. Compared to western cultures, these Asian cultures arguably demand greater discipline and respect for authority in schools and homes. In Japan, for instance, it is not uncommon for students to go to school on Saturday and to attend night Juku/’cram’ classes to prepare for examinations. Compared to western schooling, kids in Asian countries such as Japan face a grueling demand from their schooling and must develop discipline and respect from an early age. Taking up a hobby that originates from such cultures has the benefit of exposing children to a small taste of the discipline that is demanded from children of such cultures. One of the side benefits of hobbies such as martial arts is the respect for other cultures that it instills.

Goal setting, the end of instant gratification and self-entitlement

Martial arts encourages students to work slowly towards a goal. Lack of respect often comes from a sense of self-entitlement. This is natural, as children are raised in a culture of instant gratification that comes from popular hobbies such as gaming. Tae Kwon Do grading ceremonies are an example of martial arts cultivating values that are the exact opposite of instant gratification and entitlement. Students commence studies with a white belt and are taught some very basic patterns. At each grading, students work their way through various levels of colored belts and black belt and even have to earn colored belt tips before earning the full colored belt. Working through these belt gradings is not done quickly; only when the student has proved that they are ready for the next level. Students are graded in an audience and when they proceed to the next level, there is a sense of pride. This comes from truly earning the belt colors and stripes from the hard work that is required. This gradual grading system is a refreshing change from the usual hobbies that produce instant gratification and prepares kids for other facets of life. The value of starting from the bottom and working upwards and having respect for earning a higher position rather than demanding it is applicable to the work force. Within this process, there is a certain level of humility that comes from being graded on performance.

Respect for authority

Martial arts also helps children to develop a respect for authority figures. At the beginning of a lesson, students are all expected to stand still and to bow to the instructor. The instructor may also be given an honorific title such as ‘sah bum nim’ (which, in Korean, is translated as teacher or master). Students who wish to progress to a higher belt also need to perform in front of even higher senior instructors, who will assess the skills and decide on the outcome of the grading. This also assists in the teaching of discipline towards authority figures. Unfortunately, modern western cultures have placed a diminished focus on the level of authority for figures such as teachers, parents and other adult figures. Martial arts is a discipline that would undoubtedly expose children to authority figures that command a higher level of ceremony and respect.

Learning to Listen

Another common complaint from moms and dads (and teachers) is children not listening to them and not following instructions. Teachers and parents are often at odds over the lack of mental attentiveness to school work and household chores and how this could impact their academic careers. In order to master the patterns, defence strategies and important martial arts moves, the student will need to listen carefully to the instructor. They also must pay close attention to the opponent, in a sparring simulation exercise. The enjoyment of reaching to a higher grade and earning a new belt can only be achieved if the child listens very carefully to the instructor. Martial arts is one of those hobbies that really develops those essential listening skills.

Self control and respectful relationships

Self control is another attribute of being a respectful person. Lack of self control in children can result in verbal and physical outbursts. Each of the martial arts disciplines has a specific set of skills. In sparring practice, students are paired up and practice their skills in a very controlled environment. It requires calmness and self discipline as well as other virtues such as mutual respect for the opponent and trust in order to carry out sparring practice. With moves that require sharper punches and kicks, such as Tae Kwon Do, the powerful blows are often practiced on punching bags. Practicing these powerful moves on an inanimate object is a healthy way for children to channel their aggression or frustrations. Martial arts often involves sessions of visualization and goal setting, which in themselves require another dimension of self control. Relaxation and focus provide relief from anger or aggression in adults, so the same could be said for children. Parents may find that their children can have the capacity to be more respectful to others when they have a greater sense of self control.

Respect for peers

When it comes to respect, respect of authority is one dimension that has been discussed thus far. Of equal importance is building respectful relationships between peers and in differing social situations. Martial Arts can help develop social skills and build the importance of respect between peers. In sparring practices, students are required to bow to one another. This teaches kids that in a competitive situation, respect for the sport and the opponents involved in it are of up most importance. Bowing at the beginning of a combat sets the tone for a respectful exchange. Trust is also an element that is built into any practice situations. In order to practice the specific martial arts skills, students must also communicate, thus building an element of team work into this sport. Being graded by a set of strict criteria specific to the martial arts discipline means that sparring between partners must follow a certain set of rules and parameters. This requires self discipline between the opponents, a mutual respect and mutual trust. Anti-social type behaviors can manifest itself in the home and in the schoolyard. In a martial arts studio, students are in the same space with a set of similar goals and this is conducive to building friendships and social interaction. These peer skills can easily be transferred to both home and school settings, where children have been encouraged to not only respect the authority figure in the martial arts studio, but also respect for peers.

Self Respect

The final element of respect is self-respect. As discussed previously, martial arts encourages students to develop a set of goals in the belt grading system. Reaching each of these milestones, based on hard work and merit, instills a greater sense of self-respect.

How martial arts is applied to other aspects of life

So far, the positive attributes associated with respect have been closely linked to the different aspect of martial arts disciplines. The next concern among parents becomes apparent. ‘What if my child learns greater respect for his/her martial arts instructor, but continues to be disrespectful to parents and teachers’? It may be true that children may display different attributes to match the situation. Is there advice for helping children apply martial arts respect skills to everyday life? If children take up martial arts, open the dialogue with them and encourage them to talk about what they learnt about respect. Even though they may be inclined to talk about the latest move they learnt to disarm an opponent, try to emphasize what they learnt about respect. Parents can also ask probing questions such as ‘how will your martial arts make you happier at school’? ‘Do you think you should show your teachers the same respect as your Martial Arts instructor’? Children, left to their own devices, won’t necessarily be reflective about their experiences and what they have learnt. Parents can ask these sort of questions and open up some honest dialogue to provide the scaffolding needed to encourage their children to reflect upon what they have learnt and how they view respect for other authority figures in their lives. Children who take up martial arts also have the potential to make new social interactions. Depending on the age of the child, parents can help encourage these interactions by getting to know the other moms and dads and their children.

Advice for the more adventurous parents

The last piece of advice is for the moms and dads who are more daring than others. Martial arts classes can be attended as a family. Although it might be a step outside of the usual comfort zone for parents, taking part in these classes as a family could be a major bonding opportunity, as family members support each other to reach the next grading level. Treating martial arts classes as a family activity could help younger kids to see their parents showing the same respect towards the instructor that is demanded of all students. This family bonding activity might not apply to all situations. Not all parents will have an inclination to take up self defense and that’s understandable.

The different dimensions of respect have been discussed as well as how the discipline of martial arts can help to cultivate these skills. In order to help children to apply these skills, it is important to talk to them and help them reflect on their learning experiences. In some families, martial arts can be taken up as a family hobby, with many benefits. Children are able to take up martial arts at any age, even before age 6, where it can help children develop muscle control and coordination.


What If A Child Is Labeled As “Dishonest”

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Every parent wants to raise a trustworthy child who is held in high regard among their family members, friends, co-workers, and society in general. We all have seen those kids who grow up with no moral compass and seem to find themselves trudging through life with no direction and no respect for themselves or others. No parent wants to face having raised a child who is dishonest. So, what can you do to prevent your child from becoming one of “those kids” who grows up to be someone no one can trust?

What Happens When a Child Grows Up Being Dishonest?

Sad Abused Boy with Anger ShadowWhile it may not seem like such a big deal when a child is only five years old and tells lies on a frequent basis, this behavior will no longer be accepted once the child reaches adulthood. Children who grow up telling lies on a regular basis are not respected by family members, teachers, friends, or people in the community. A child who is labeled as dishonest often carries that title with them for life, especially if they become a lying adult who does not change their ways. Dishonesty can often lead to:

* Failure in school

* Issues with college admissions

* Difficulty gaining employment

* Difficulty keeping employment

* Problems with personal relationships

* Problems with breaking the law

Dishonesty creates a slippery slope that can become easy for a child to become entrapped in. It seems one lie leads to another and another and before you know it, a child is having difficulty distinguishing between reality and the make believe world they have created with their lies. As Sir Walter Scott said, “Oh what a tangled web we weave, when first we practice to deceive.” Oh, how true this quote is!

What Makes A Child Become Untrustworthy?

Before we launch too far out into the deep, it is important parents realize children are going to lie from time to time and this does not necessarily mean they will turn out to be a deceitful adult. Children may lie for a variety of reasons, including:

* To avoid being disciplined

* To receive a reward

* To protect others

* To enhance self-esteem

* To protect their privacy

Unfortunately, it does not take long for a child to develop a habit of dishonesty, especially if they are not disciplined appropriately when caught in a lie. While discipline is crucial for helping a child develop a habit of honesty, the wrong discipline can cause further problems that can be difficult to address.

What Is the Wrong Way to Address Dishonesty?

When a parent realizes their child has committed a serious lie, they are often devastated. Suddenly finding out your child has lied to you in a big way can be hurtful and make you very angry. Often, parents become so angry with finding out their child lied, they go overboard on punishment, thinking they are doing the right thing and this will “wake up” their child. Regrettably, this signals to the child to forego telling the truth in the future because they do not want to face such a stiff punishment.

As parents, we can often feel we are doing the right thing when we are actually doing the direct opposite. Instead of encouraging our children to tell the truth, we act as policemen, doing our best to catch them in lies and then bringing on swift punishment. Yes, discipline is crucial but modeling the correct behavior and open communication are even more so for developing honesty in a child.

Parenting can be difficult when it comes to knowing how to properly discipline a child and address their issues with dishonesty. Although it can be cumbersome instilling a child with honesty, the benefits lead to a child who is self-assured and has moral integrity. When a child becomes a trustworthy adult, doors of opportunity await them.

How Can Parents Instill Honesty in Their Child?

Modeling the desired behavior is crucial for success in helping a child become honest. As a parent, we often make the mistake of telling those “little white lies” on a regular basis and do not even realize what we are doing to our children.

How often have you lied to a telemarketer or refused to come to the phone, making up an excuse? Do your children see you telling lies on a regular basis? We all make the mistake of forgetting our children are watching us all the time. We tell a friend their new haircut looks great and then we get home and say what we really feel. Is this the proper way for us to model honest behavior? After all, children are going to pay attention more to what we do than what we say!

These tips can help parents instill honesty in their child:

* Try to avoid lying in front of your children. If you do find you have lied, explain why you did. Use this as a lesson to help a child understand why it may have been better had you not lied and what you could do differently in the future.

* Do not attempt to trap a child in a lie, even if you are positive they are about to. Allow them time to talk to you and reveal the truth in their own way.

* Do not confront a child with their lie if you are upset or angry because you will be more likely to be overly harsh in your conversation and the punishment you choose.

* Begin teaching smaller children the importance of honesty at an early age. If honesty is required from an early age, a child is less likely to develop lying habits.

* Older children can be taught the valuable lesson of honesty by informing them of the devastating consequences of dishonesty in relationships. They need to know once trust has been broken, it can be very difficult to mend.

Because a fear of punishment is the most common reason adults and children lie, it is important punishments are approached carefully. Punishments should be put in place before a child ever lies. It is a good idea to have a warning system in place so a child does not get punished for their first offense. The punishment should match the severity of the lie and the parent needs to be sure they do not close their child off to the point they avoid open communication in the future.

Instilling Discipline Begins at Home But Should Not Stop There

Honesty is a crucial life skill every child must master before they step out into adulthood and are on their own. If this life skill is not taught from an early age, it will become increasingly difficult for a parent to pursue because their child will have already developed bad habits. The more a child is allowed to lie and get away with it, the easier it becomes.

A big part of teaching a child honesty is being there for them no matter what. They need to know they can come to you, no matter what they may have done, and your thoughts towards them will not change. They need to feel comfortable opening up to you and becoming vulnerable. If you can successfully foster that type of relationship with your child, they are going to be more open and honest with you and there will be fewer episodes of lying to deal with.

Discipline is a big part of honesty and a child who is disciplined will be better able to self-regulate themselves. It is important to note discipline is not just punishment. Living a disciplined life means having order and not chaos. It means being held to your honor and guarding your reputation against anything that might arise and cause it to be tarnished.

While some parents enroll their kids in the Boy Scouts or make them join a sports team to gain a code of honor, this is not going to be beneficial if the child is not being disciplined at home. They need to be held accountable for the things they say and do. No group or mentor can instill honesty without the intervention of the parents or caregiver.

Martial Arts Can Add Discipline to a Child’s Life

Martial Arts is a practice that can change a wayward child if they have the full support of their parents. When a child is involved in Martial Arts, they must be held accountable to their sensei and fellow classmates. Lying is something that can be detrimental to training and is not accepted in any form. Not only is a child expected to be honest to others, they must also be honest with themselves.

A bond must develop between a student and their Martial Arts instructor but it can not develop properly if both parties are not honest. From the moment a child is enrolled in Martial Arts training, they are taught to be honest with themselves. Self-deception is one of the most destructive of lies because it can deeply affect a child’s ability to prosper in school, at home, and in life. Self-deception is one of the easiest bad habits to master because it is very difficult for others to detect since it is all done internally.

Martial Arts aids in the development of integrity which is a crucial part of becoming an adult. The instructors help kids to fully address their shortcomings instead of making excuses for them and inadvertently lying. When a kid is being taught honesty at home and is involved in Martial Arts training that is further instilling honesty, they will begin to change in positive ways and lying will no longer be a part of their psyche.

Learning the discipline of Martial Arts requires a child to be held responsible for their own actions. If a child is allowed to make excuses for their behavior, they are likely to end up becoming the type of person that fails at everything in life. When a child is training in Martial Arts, they must be disciplined in their training and practice. If they fail when tested, they will have no one to blame but themselves so they learn they cannot cover up their failures with lies.

When Martial Arts is combined with a strong focus of honesty at home, kids learn this crucial life skill and develop a strong sense of pride in becoming a trustworthy individual. Their reputation will become something they treasure instead of something they disrespect and do not hold in high regard.

Conclusion

Anyone who is a parent knows parenting is not easy, even if you have a model child. We always second-guess ourselves and worry whether or not we are making the right decisions in parenting. If a parent works on practicing honesty themselves and requiring it of their child, they can instill honesty in a profound way. Adding Martial Arts training can further the honesty lessons a child receives, giving rise to kids who are self-confident and honorable in their words and actions.


Dishonesty & Disrespect And How Martial Arts Can Help

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Kids these days! How many times has this statement been uttered as older people shake their heads in wonder? Unfortunately, honesty is no longer the existential character trait people once highly regarded. Instead, we are creating a generation that feels they do not have to be honest and actually are inadvertently rewarded for being dishonest.

Although we could attempt to blame society, television, even the school system for the lack of honesty among the younger generations, parents need to be aware of the role they have played in creating untrustworthy offspring. Generations past were held to much higher standards than they are today and many children are growing up under the falsehood they do not have to be accountable to anyone. So, where have we gone wrong as parents and what can be done to right the wrongs before society delves deeper into subterfuge?

Why Were the “Old Ways” Better Ways?

It seems each generation has attempted to improve upon the last by leaving behind what they consider old-fashioned methods of parenting. Forty years ago, children were taught a person’s word was of paramount importance and lying caused a tremendous blight on their character.

When a child lied, they were punished for their indiscretions and they were no longer trusted until they could prove themselves trustworthy again, which took a lot of work and character development on their part. This raised up a generation of men and women who gave their word and meant it. There was no need for drawn-out contracts and promissory notes because people could generally rely on a person’s word as their bond.

We must take a look at what has changed over the years to understand why Honesty is no longer considered a respectable trait to have. One of the biggest changes over the last fifty years has been both parents entering the workforce and leaving kids to raise themselves. Many parents are working full-time jobs, sometimes two, and the kids are suffering because they are being raised by video games, television, and the Internet, which create a pseudo-reality that contaminates a child’s view of the world.

Parents are no longer parenting, they are befriending their children and are actually afraid to take on the role they have been given as a parent. Unfortunately, dishonesty is often a learned trait. We do not realize the impact we have on our children when we constantly tell those “little white lies” that seem innocuous enough but are actually telling our children it is okay to lie. What parent hasn’t asked their child to answer the phone and tell the caller they are busy or even away from home? We must set better examples if we want our children to become honest adults.

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What Can Parents Do to Encourage Honesty?

Instilling Honesty in a child is not something that can be taught one time and mastered. It is an ongoing day-to-day process that first models the correct behavior, rewards Honesty, and punishes dishonesty. A child must learn there are repercussions to lying. If honesty is not being taught and expected at home, who will instill it in a child?

Many parents make the mistake of believing participation in sports will help their child to become an honest, upstanding citizen. Though that may have been true in the past, the creed of most youth sports leagues is creating even more of a problem of dishonesty because the coaches and support staff are simply looking for the win and not holding kids accountable for their actions.

In reality, no form of disciplined activity can fully teach a child to be honest, if Honesty is not an expected virtue in the home. No matter how much society tries to push boundaries, honesty is not overrated and never will be.

Children must be held accountable to their word. When a child lies, the lie should never be accepted by the parent and parents should never help their child lie, for any reason. Demanding Honesty with no exceptions is difficult in parenting but is the only way to ensure the next generation does not continue to spiral into a world of deceit.

These tips can help parents instill honesty in their child:

* Children mimic what they see their parents doing. Be a good role model and let your word be your bond.

* Positive reinforcement is always beneficial. When a child has told the truth, make sure they understand how much it pleases you.

* The punishment should fit the crime. If a child is caught lying, some type of punishment needs to be given so they can learn lying is not acceptable.

* Hold your child accountable for every word they say. Help them understand how important their trustworthiness is.

Martial Arts Can Further Enhance a Parent’s Efforts to Mold an Honest Child

Many parents send their children to the Boy Scouts or make them join a sports team because they believe the coach or scout leader has some sort of magic wand they can wave over the child and suddenly make them trustworthy. While Martial Arts is a practice that demands a firm foundation of Honesty, the work must first begin at home for success.

Martial Arts requires a great amount of discipline and teaches a child to be held accountable to their sensei, dojo, and themselves. The benefits of this discipline can have far-reaching positive effects on a child that will stay with them for the rest of their lives.

Parents who want to further instill honesty in their child can receive the reinforcement they need through Martial Arts training. This training is available for children of all ages. Children who train under a sensei learn the core values that are so vital for ensuring they become responsible adults who value honesty and refuse to succumb to the societal pressures that cause people to lose their trustworthiness.

Conclusion

Being a parent is one of the most difficult roles you will ever have. Parenting is not easy and we all make mistakes. Even if you have allowed your child to grow lax in their code of honor, it is never too late to begin reinforcing honesty and requiring it. By modeling the behaviors and values you want for your child, you are reinforcing them more effectively than with words alone.

As a part of the process of training a child to be honest, Martial Arts is a tool that can be used to transform them and help them better understand the consequences of dishonesty. Martial Arts, when coupled with effective parenting, can make a huge difference in a child’s life and put them on the path to success so they can grow up to be a trustworthy adult who is respected in life.


Respect Lessons For Your Child Through Martial Arts

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Respect is an important value that everyone needs to learn. But teaching respect to children can be a difficult process, and many parents struggle with this issue. Luckily, there are some things that parents can do to improve their child’s level of respect, and one of them happens to be martial arts. Below we are going to learn how martial arts training can help your child learn the value of respect and how to use it to improve their lives.

Martial Arts Provides a Respectful Environment

When your child walks into a martial arts studio, they will immediately be surrounded by respectful people. Not only will the trainers show respect for their students, but students will also show respect to their trainers and fellow students. When your child sees other kids their age giving respect to their trainers and other students in the class, your child will learn how important respect is. Children are often a product of their environment so providing them with one that has respect in it will give good results.

Your Child Will Learn to Respect Their Elders

Martial arts trainers command respect from their students and they never back down. If the student remains disrespectful, the trainer may discipline the student and even remove them from their class. But most children learn quickly who is in charge and respect is the only way they are going to get to learn martial arts. This helps the child learn to respect their elders which will carry over into the rest of their lives. So if your child has a problem respecting authority, then martial arts just might help them turn their way of thinking around.

Your Child Will Learn to Respect Themselves

Not only will your child learn to respect others, they will also learn self-respect. This is a very important part of growing up and will help make your child more confident in life. There are so many adults that never learn to respect themselves and this can lead to major problems. Those that don’t respect themselves will often fall victim to peer pressure and some even turn to drugs. Signing up your child for a martial arts program can greatly benefit them now and in the future. Having self-respect will help your child avoid the many pitfalls of growing up.

Respect Will Transfer Over

Once your child has learned to respect their martial arts trainer, they will start to respect others off the mat. You will start to notice a positive change in your child’s attitude towards others. They will start to respect their teachers at school, their family at home and their friends. You may even get positive notes from your child’s school telling you how much they have improved. When a child learns respect, it is something that they will often never forget. Teaching respect at an early age will help your child achieve great things both on and off the mat.

They Will Learn Humility

In martial arts, every student will make mistakes and they will lose matches. Failure will often teach children to be humble and respect others that have worked hard to be their best. Losing a match is a great motivator and most students will want to work harder to be at their best for their next match. Seeing how hard it is to become a great student of martial arts will help your child learn to respect those who have achieved greatness. Humility is very important to learn, and it will help your child later in life.

They Will Learn Not to Waste Others Time

Learning to master martial arts takes a lot of time and practice. Martial arts are often taught in a classroom type environment where the trainer teaches many students at the same time. Each student will have to learn how to be respectful in this type of environment in order for everyone to be able to learn. Any distractions will be dealt with by the trainer and your child will learn not to waste the time of others.

If your child is having a difficult time learning the importance of respect, then you should seriously consider enrolling them in a martial arts program. They will not only learn respect, but they will also learn positive values that will stay with them for life.


Disrespectful Child! Answer: Martial Arts

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Does your child lack respect? Maybe you want to teach your child how to respect others in a positive way? Respect is something that every child should learn, and it should start at a young age. But it can often be difficult to get children to give respect.

What Is Respect?

 

Before a child can learn how to respect others, they will need to know what it looks like. Respect can come in many forms. Not talking back to their parents, allowing an elderly person to take your seat on the bus, and listening to what your teacher tells you are all signs of respect. You should always strive to show your child what respect is so that they can emulate respectful actions. The more respectful people your child is around, the better their chances of learning what respect is! So make sure that you surround your child with positive people.

 

Why Should Your Child Learn Respect?

 

Learning how to respect others is very important in many different ways. First, your child will need to learn to respect you the parent. At an early age, you should encourage respectful behaviors. This will help them interact with others later in life. Once they become school level, they will need to learn to respect their teachers along with their other classmates. This is very important for the future of their education. Disruptions in class due to being disrespectful will not only harm your child’s education, but it will also distract the focus of the entire class. Finally, your child will need to learn respect before they become an adult. An adult that has not learned respect can find themselves in trouble with the law. Many people that have served time in prison have a major problem with lacking respect for others.

 

Martial Arts Can Improve Respectfulness

 

If you are looking for a way to improve your child’s respectful behavior, you should enroll them in a martial arts program. At its core, martial arts teaches the student to not only respect their instructor but other students in the program too. Your child’s martial arts instructor will demand respect and give respect once it is received. Many students who have behavior issues before entering a martial arts program will quickly learn how to respect others. This is very important to their overall development and learning how to respect will help them in every part of their lives.

Martial Arts Can Help Your Child Develop into A Respectful Adult

 

If you place your child into a martial arts program at an early age, it will help teach them respect. As the child grows and they go through puberty, they can often lose some of that respect that they learned at an early age. By keeping them in a martial arts program throughout their childhood and into early adulthood, it will help them to develop into a respectful person. We all go through phases in life and martial arts can help us get through them. By growing into a respectful adult, your child will have a lot of opportunities open up for him or her.

 

Martial Arts Can Be a Lifelong Teacher

 

It can take a lifetime to master martial arts, but the journey can teach you a lot. Not only will you learn to respect others, you will learn to respect yourself as well. Once your child learned how to respect himself, it will keep him out of trouble and allow him to prosper in life. If your child chooses to stick with martial arts, it can help them in all aspects of life. From everyday problems to more serious issues, martial arts can teach you how to handle them with respect and kindness. So if you want your child to have a lifelong teacher that can guide them, why not put them in a martial arts program?

 

As you can see, martial arts can help your child learn what respect is and how to use it in life. This is very important to the overall health of your child and their development into adulthood. Being respectful will help your child achieve a lot in life, and it will keep them out of trouble. So make sure that you enroll your child in a martial arts program to guide them in the right direction.


How Parents Are Using Martial Arts to Help Their Kids

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If you are a parent then you probably understand how hard it can be to give your child the best teachings. For a child to grow into a responsible adult, he/she will need discipline, self-esteem, respect, be a goal setter and have many more skills. Your child gets all that and more from a martial arts class. In fact, martial art has proven to help in the parenting of a child. Here is an explanation of how martial arts can help parenting.

Balance

A sense of balance is very important in a child’s development and martial arts can help in the development of that. Your child will not only be taught on ways to defend himself but also learn how to prevent injuries from happening.

Leaning Ability

You will need an extreme mental focus before learning a certain skill. Your child will be taught how to concentrate under pressure. They will also learn how to memorize terms and techniques that are crucial in performing techniques. Students are able to execute the skills correctly after repeating a certain technique. The same Learning ability can be adaptable in school or home. So teaching your child something will not be as hard as teaching a kid who has never stepped foot in a martial arts class.

Respect

Parents try out very many avenues to try and instill respect in their kids. Most of the strategies never work. However, martial art training teaches the value of rank, age, experience and expertise to your kids. Higher ranks normally indicate higher expertise. So when a student attains certain ranks, they become worthy of teaching their skills and knowledge to others. So your child will learn how to treat others with respect even outside the gym.

Goal Setting

This is a very important aspect your child needs to learn from a tender age. There are specific goals set out in a martial arts class. When a student attains any goal, he/she reaches a higher rank. These ranks are denoted using colored belts. Parenting will be quite easy if you have a kid who already knows how to take on new challenges in chunks. Your child will also learn to prioritize specific goals since they are taught how to divide up all the knowledge needed to go up the rank bit by bit.

Discipline

This is normally the first thing kids are taught when they enroll in a martial arts class. They are taught more about self-control and concentration. There are many techniques kids are taught. For each one of them, they are trained to focus intensely on proper execution. Being disciplined is being able to do what you are told even if you don’t agree with it. These techniques are not easy to execute. Since they are hard, the reward of achieving a higher rank is what keeps them disciplined.

Self-Esteem

Parenting will be easy if your child has self-esteem. This is the ability to believe in one’s self. So your child having a high self-esteem means he/she is capable, able and confident that he can achieve anything. There are small challenges they are expected to overcome in a martial arts class. This helps them improve every day and believe in themselves even more.

Self Defense

There is nothing that gives a parent a peace of mind like knowing your child out there can defend himself/herself. Your child will also be relaxed knowing that he has himself covered in case of an incident. Basic martial art training normally involves avoiding any confrontation as much as possible. So due to self-awareness, your child will less likely have to result to violence in dealing with problems. So in case a confrontation cannot be prevented, for instance, if he/she is about to be assaulted, he will execute techniques that will prevent the assault from happening or escalating.

Physical Fitness

When a child is healthy, a parent will have nothing to worry about. That’s what martial art does to a kid. The intense training involved in the practice helps your child’s cardiovascular fitness and strengthens the muscles. So you don’t have to worry about your child gaining weight.

Acquire Useful Skills

Apart from just being physically fit, your child will learn useful skills in a martial arts class. So instead of staying at home, watching TV or playing video games, you should consider enrolling your kid in a martial arts class to practice a new skill instead.


It’s Never Too Early To Teach A Child Self-Respect

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Have you ever considered enrolling your younger ones to a martial arts class? There are many reasons why young children should be advised to take martial arts classes. For example, they will learn how to improve their self-confidence and self-esteem, be discipline, learn and appreciate the reasons for the existence of rules and more. Read on to learn more about the benefits of signing your child for a martial arts class:

 

  1. They Will Gain Self Respect

Martial art is all about self-discipline and self-respect. As a parent, it’s always your responsibility to make sure that your child grows up to be a responsible person. Of course, you can teach him or her to be disciplined and have respect for other people, but you can’t teach them everything at home. Once you enrolled them to a martial arts class, they will be taught how to live with each other peacefully. They will learn how to respect each other and be disciplined at all times. In addition, they will also learn why drug abuse is not ideal for them.

 

  1. They Will Learn How to Solve Conflicts

When we were growing up bullying was a common problem at school. Nowadays, bullying isn’t a big problem as it used to be but it’s still there. There are many different ways to deal with this problem, but there is a right way to handle it. By choosing to sign up your younger ones for a martial arts class, you are giving them an opportunity to learn how to solve conflicts and play peacefully with their peers.

Our children are just like us, they will always disagree from time to time even during their training. A reputable martial arts instructor should be able to detect any form of bullying and solve the problem early before it becomes a big problem. If your child has bad temper, they will be taught how to control their temper and use the right to channels to solve their issues.

 

  1. Martial Arts Instills Self Confidence

If you want to achieve greater things in life, you should learn how to have faith in yourself. Martial arts teach children how to be independent and trust their instincts. There are many skills that your child will have to learn. The good news is, every time they learn a new skill, they get to boost their self-confidence and self-esteem. Their need of wanting to learn something new increases every time they realize that they can do it. What’s makes this training even more interesting is the rewards that they receive for completing their tasks successfully. This reward also acts as a sign of respect.

 

  1. They Will Learn How to Take Instructions

One thing about martial art is that you need to learn how to act on the instructions correctly. This means that you need to be attentive and listen carefully to what the instructor is saying. Some parents prefer to teach their children how to pay attention when someone is talking, especially when elderly person is talking, however there is a group of parents that prefer their children to learn these lessons from somewhere else.

If there is one thing that will teach your child how to accept instruction is martial arts. The people that teach them these skills were also taught by their predecessors and they are happy to instill the same knowledge to your younger ones. Martial arts teach people to be kind, respect other people and listen to what they have to say. These are great values that your child needs to learn.

 

  1. They Will Learn How to Set and Achieve Goals

Martial art practitioners are always awarded with belts after completing certain challenges successfully. These belts signify the mastery level that you are currently in. In addition, the people that wear these belts are highly respected in the society. Because of this, your child is motivated to work even harder. He or she will have to set goals and work hard to achieve his or her goals. This process teaches them to set goals and achieve them through working hard. As an added advantage, once your child accomplishes his or her goals, they will be more confident and very happy.

 

  1. They Will Make New Friends

If we are being honest, it’s not easy for some kids to make new friends. Making new friends is a very challenging process for many kids but it’s a very vital process. Studies show that people are likely to get to know each other better through a common interest. In this regard, there is a good chance that your child will make new friends if you signed them up for a martial arts class. Given that they will be spending some great amount of time with other kids every day, they are likely to bond and start new relationships. What’s more, you too will have an opportunity of meeting new people and probably make some new friends.